Have you ever met a scrote that claimed to have lots of enemies?

Plenty of times. They were friends, boyfriends, classmates, etc. Once I got into FDS, the rose-tinted glasses faded and I had to block them. I have no male friends now and would rather keep it that way!

One guy kept getting fired. He was in an entry-level job and his female boss was getting frustrated because he refused to fix his mistakes/typos/etc and kept insisting his way was better than hers. He even refused to go back to work until she'd apologize for being so "uptight" with him. It escalated until he shouted insults at her face in front of everyone so she fired him on the spot. He blamed it on her being “too emotional” to be a boss worthy of his respect.

I discovered another long term guy friend falling down the Tate/redpill rabbit hole. He kept retelling these fights he'd have with his GF and her friends (claiming they were bullies). Things weren't adding up so I heard the GF’s side and turns out he was actually abusive and gaslighting her, so I confronted him. He started spewing misogynistic slurs at me (clearly a nice guy and his mask fell) so I blocked him and the GF was inspired by my actions that she dumped him and did the same.

I’m actually going to stop there because I could keep ranting about this and just thinking about these stories just make me so angry. And their victim mentality just means that everyone else is the villain. You can’t win with people who have already painted you as the bad guy. It’s best to avoid and ignore these scrotes as soon as possible. Let them wallow in their own self pity.

IMO watching out for men like the ones OP mentions is a good vetting strategy. Anyone can fall out with one friend or have one bad boss but if someone seems to have an issue with everyone e.g. if a man claims that every single boss he ever had was bullying him or had it in for him; avoid him like the plague. You have to look at the common denominator in these situations. If someone has a problem everywhere they go, then they're the problem.

That level of paranoia and constantly blaming other people for what were most likely his own mistakes and shortcomings reeks of an paranoid narcisisst with a gigantic victim complex.

Nothing is ever his fault, the whole world is out to get him and if all those evil, evil people didn't sabotage his every move absolutely no reason he would certainly be rich, beautiful and powerful and get what he is "owed"(=all the power and sex he rightfully deserves) because he is actually so much smarter and better than everyone else. Sound familiar? Mommy always told him he is perfect, so it can't ever be his own fault if anything goes wrong, right? There must be evil forces at work!

Most normal adults do not have "enemies". We have rivals, competitors, people we don't like, people who don't like us, opponents in a specific cause or situation, maybe the occasional angry ex out for revenge (and that mostly applies to women)... but "enemies" as in multiple unrelated people spending their valuable time trying to sabotage you for some personal reason? Not really.

When I first met my ex, he would claim that everyone hated him. And I'm talking like, random cashiers at stores or the waiter at the restaurant. He'd get creepily depressed and pout that all these people hated him. I didn't realize at the time that this was a sign of his narcissism. Where he felt like he was the center of the universe therefore everyone Must be paying attention to HIM.

I like what Evy Pompouras said in Becoming Bulletproof: if you're constantly in a fight with everyone, the problem is probably you.

Yup. He would always say the universe was against him, he had the world luck ever, etc. He got fired regularly, didn’t have a steady group of friends, was terrible with money, had substance abuse issues…the list goes on & on. Whenever he was doing (relatively) well though, he would exaggerate how bad things had been to make his “comeback” seem better than it actually was. For example, he was homeless for like…3 days, tops. When he told the story, it went from a week to a month to god knows what it’s up to now.

Unsurprisingly, he was manipulative, cheap & needy with me…thank god I found FDS.

One of the red flags in gift of fear was he thinks people are out to get him

I haven't personally met one, but this reminds me of the Tinder Swindler (telling women his enemies are coming for him all the time... when actually those "enemies" are the people he swindled 😆)

So if I meet one, I will be forewarned to keep my distance 🤣

😂 He sounds like he’s from one of those a marvel movies. 😂 It seriously sounds like a plot from Batman…or a Drake song…

I can just imagine him sitting there telling you all his enemies and trying not cackle or involuntarily spit out my drink.

Yup. Stay clear of these men. My ex was like this. He would always blame others for his firings when it was him. He was argumentative and would gaslight. Being much younger than him, I would feel so bad that the world was against him but then I realised that none of the bad things in his life was a one off. It was him and his shitty personality. I found his LinkedIn profile the other day and laughed. He was unemployed for a full 8 years and he claims he ran his own business in that time with multi million dollar contracts. Liar!

A guy I used to work with was like this too. He was fired and this wasn't his first firing. He kept getting hauled into Human Resources and people around him kept telling him that he shouldn't get argumentative in meetings with bosses and thinks he knows better, but he didn't listen. He's now going on a year without a job.

Stay clear of these men.

No. Why would I? Men have far the most privilege to do more than the average woman in her lifetime.

Also is it enemies or a crazy ex or what? These men cannot get their stories straight.

Probably DARVO...it's probably some poor woman who's being harassed by him to the point of losing jobs or her reputation.

I do believe women. But not giving any man the benefit of the doubt.

Particularly these women.

"Others have had to have excruciating conversations with their families, co-workers, and bosses after, they say, Bell threatened to send explicit photos or explicit conversations to their employers or attempt to have them fired."

https://www.vice.com/en/article/m7gq8a/james-bell-cyberstalking-harassment-catfishing

Imagine having to switch jobs, relocate, delete social media because an entitled male has gone beyond harassment and is now criminally abusing you to point where he shows up on a women's social media stalking but also doing so in real life?

ETA

I also believe it definitely happens in racist/misogynistic workplaces. It's inevitable that many of darker-skinned people might experience this.

Jacquie Abrams documented hers "And so my career was derailed multiple times by multiple employers". None of racist employers are "enemies". Hardly. I often notice that some misogynistic/racist men are "kind" but only selectively. Same with male-identified women.

I did read the first "Hush Money" part 1 as I was sent a copy. It was an extremely harrowing account (get your tissues) of how the system can move a person from one racist [abusive] person to a whole team of them. She was able to prove the racism happened for one particular job over a course of years and different management. Proving the pattern was not just one person, Ms. Abrams won a settlement.

I believe her. And she's not the only one.

Racist and other abusers (including misogynists) aren't the "enemy".

I have endured some racism at workplaces, some age ism, even some ableism but not one employer is nor was an "enemy."

I also left an abusive marriage and my ex isn't an "enemy."

Although there are no lessons from horrific abuse such as racism, I believe healing from such abuse brings lessons. When one isn't healed, we go into the next similar situation without the right strategies to navigate it again and we don't listen to our intuition telling us we aren't psychologically safe.

https://www.amazon.com/stores/Jacquie-Abram/author/B08MDGDRZB?

https://www.forbes.com/sites/janicegassam/2021/12/03/how-one-woman-turned-her-traumatic-workplace-experience-into-an-international-bestseller/?sh=1f22795c578d

There is a free course under Theresa M. Robinsons Ally Quiz which allows one to learn what situations might be hard for us to navigate on racist/misogynistic workplaces. It's under Test your Knowledge, Take Our Ally Quiz Today.

https://theresamrobinson.com/courses/