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"Early in my life as a mother, I became friendly with another woman whose children were about the same age. We would meet for lunch occasionally with our 3- and 1-year-olds at a local child-friendly diner and commiserate about caring for toddlers. She was a literary agent with big ambitions, and I was a journalist with smaller ones."
"Over time, her complaints turned quite sharp, and it was clear her marriage was suffering. Her husband was not helping at all with the children — never bathing them, for instance. Or rather, he was helping, but only in the ways that he and the kids enjoyed. Within a couple of years, she had filed for divorce."
"In a recent Washington Post piece, author Lyz Lenz suggests yes. In the essay, adapted from her new book “This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended my Marriage and Started My Life,” she writes:
“While women do more housework than their male partners, even when women are the primary earners, this work also goes largely unobserved by men, who statistically perceive themselves as doing equal work. Add the fact that husbands add hours of labor to a home — labor done by their wives — and it’s a bleak picture of domestic partnership.”
She adds: “Do you want to know how I finally got my husband to do his fair share? Court-ordered 50-50 custody, that’s how.”
But it’s also possible that her expectations were unrealistic. Splitting all responsibilities down the middle is hard. One parent always has to give — it doesn’t always have to be the mother. It usually is, however, in part because women generally want to work fewer hours outside the home than men, in part because they tend to want things done in a particular way and find their husbands don’t care as much, and in part because of societal expectations.
https://www.deseret.com/opinion/2024/03/05/divorce-celebrations-marriage-policy/
A husband not pulling his weight is a valid reason for divorce. Here are some of the comments to this opinion piece. One commentator even posted the Washington Post article.
Lol. Welfare did not replace black men in the home. They chose not to support the broken homes that they has a part in creating because they are reckless with their sexuality. And black women take the welfare because it's more consistent then having to rely on their children's father.