Absolutely disgusting

My relationship started out exactly like this. We were friends, there was a connection but he was the one to ask me out. I did not ask him out. This is what I mean by pursue. The man should initiate.

I think there are some advantages to having a relationship grow from something platonic, but that's only if you are an expert at vetting. Friendships can bias you into overlooking problematic behaviors too.

In either case, whether it starts off as platonic or not, the guy should initiate the relationship, not you.

I also want to add that I agree that if a man is continuously pursuing you after you have rejected him, that is indeed dehumanizing and dangerous behavior on his part.

I agree if it's pursuing like "I've chosen you!" from when he really only know what you look like.

If it's like "hmm she's attractive, let's talk to her; okay she seems cool, let's talk more; very cool, let's make sure I get to know her more" then I think it can be fine. Still continued initiative, but appropriate given what he actually knows about you.

But when I say men aren't attracted to women so much as passivity and that their sexuality is inherently necrophilic, I get dogpiled on Ovarit