Struggling with a homily

Hi, I can't exactly give the video for this because it could indirectly dox me. But I'm struggling with a homily that a local priest gave. While he did tell the husbands of the congregation to love their wives as Christ loved the church, he mentioned that a big problem in marriages is that "wives have too many expectations for their husbands" and don't show enough "gratitude" to them. He also said that men don't need love, they need respect. Sounds like some redpill shit. This makes me really mad, because I think that it's the wives who the husbands have all the expectations of. The wives are expected to cook, clean, raise the children, smell good, dress pretty, and still look she's 25 years old after 20 years of marriage. Meanwhile the man get fat, ugly, bald, and disloyal, and the wife still has to act like nothing has changed. Why is the burden put on women to make their man happy, but not on the men to make their women happy? I had been wanting to un-register from there for awhile, for reasons that weren't even this.