How do you reconcile astrology with FDS principles?

I’m not religious. My spirituality is mostly centered around mindfulness and taking what resonates with me from different belief systems.

I got into astrology around a year ago because I found it to be a very useful tool to understand myself and my relationships with the people around me. I’m aware there’s some skepticism and shame surrounding it, mostly because of men who look down on it as some vapid BS. Unsurprising for them to think that way because I know that a huge chunk of the people who ascribe to astrology are women. Classic manifestation of misogyny.

If anything, all the quips I‘ve heard from men, making fun of me for believing in it despite being a STEM major, have only pushed me to double down on my interest in astrology. It’s like they can’t grasp that an ancient form of spirituality and modern science can be appreciated by a woman at the same time.

Anyway, I was wondering how we could potentially use astrology as a vetting tool, or if it should even be considered for this use in any capacity. Certain planetary placements could potentially tell you a lot about the man you’re vetting. When I checked my synastry with my ex two years after we broke up, I’ve found that most of the challenging/difficult aspects we had actually manifested in the relationship. After studying his placements, I also now know which placements I should avoid in a future partner 😂 But of course it all boils down to synastry.

Long before I knew I had an Aries Venus, I also had a pattern of making the first move (which was what happened with my ex). And because FDS doesn’t recommend us to do any pursuing EVER, I’ve found it really difficult to stomp the urge down to pursue. At most, the only ”pursuing“ I should be doing is dropping a hint lol.

Any of my ladies out here who are into astrology and have placements that cause you to have impulses that are quite contrary to what FDS recommends? How do you reconcile them?