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Your periodic reminder to block and delete when he offers a LV date!

It's been over a year since I've even been on a date or simply kissed a man, so when I matched with someone on Hinge who managed to carry a conversation and seem genuinely interested in me, I started to think that maybe I'd finally make a decent connection with someone. That was until he asked me if I wanted to meet up with him this weekend at a local record store (we were sharing our music tastes, etc.) so that he could learn more about me and what I listen to. I should have blocked and deleted then (story of my life), but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he thought his date idea was genuinely thoughtful. So, I bluntly told him I didn't like that date idea. He came back suggesting a walk/coffee date, "or dinner," but then lightly negged me by saying he was free on Saturday if I wanted to take him out for a nice steak dinner. He also explained that he was trying to keep the date idea casual. I told him I'm not interested in a casual relationship at this point in my life, to which he got defensive and reiterated 'casual date' and not 'casual relationship.' Again, I should have blocked and deleted, but I decided to respond again by saying that casual dates lead to casual relationships. He got nasty and then wished me well (passive aggressively). What a shame. 🙄

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Unknown member

Jan 04

I love when they think going to a store, standing there, looking at things, and him not buying you anything is a god damn date. They try this crap with bookstores too.

Also I dislike most men who enjoy "vinyl records" because they are usually just useless hipsters who think they're better than everyone, and also gay deep down.

Honestly what was his plan. To stand there and awkwardly have a conversation in the middle of the store with other people trying to shop? LOW GOD DAMN VALUE.

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sentient_stardust

Jan 05

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Same. What really slays me is the fact that not one of them seem to have any useful life or relationship skills to speak of, but they nevertheless seem to have plenty of time and money to spend on meaningless self-indulgent bullshit that contributes nothing to anyone.

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Tisay.hapa

Jan 05

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Yeah I've noticed these vinyl men and even film bro men kinda give downlow vibes. I think it's because they get into those as their main hobbies because they don't have natural masculine drives so they're at home alot-- like a homemaker. They use their "clout in the scene" to attract mates in a similar fashion to women. Definitely in their feminine eras for life probably because the music they like is usually only making their lives miserable like radiohead etc

lettersanon

Jan 07

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Haha exactly. You can tell that he had not thought this through at all and was probably just trying to lift some stupid move from a romcom. Except that in those romcoms are basically the characters stumble onto each other accidentally. They don't go on planned dates to bookstores or record stores lol.

Unknown member

Jan 04

Sigh. I really hate that it's come to this - that men genuinely think that going for a walk is a 'date', or that 'jokingly' asking a woman to take them out is funny. The bar has sunk so low, and men are wondering why women won't date them!

NotTheOne

Jan 04

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And then when they get us in relationships they think quality time is going to Costco (where they "save loads of money" with unnecessary impulse purchases and loads of junk food because at that price, why not?).

Unknown member

Jan 07

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Yeah, he's free Saturday night if SHE wants to take him for a steak dinner but she gets a record store. Hhhhm k.

Unknown member

Jan 04

Good job not accepting his low effort date ideas. I especially likw the "I'm not looking for casual" part.

I'm guessing your profile already revealed that, so he should have been paying attention.

Unimpressed 🤷🏼‍♀

Jan 04

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I might have had that part hidden because I don't want men to pretend to be looking for something serious, but HIS profile showed he was looking for a long-term relationship which is why I matched to begin with.

Leveled Up

Jan 06

I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Giving the "benefit of the doubt," will getcha every time. You did the right thing by eventually B&Ding him, but wow - he just kept up the manipulation and abuse as long as he could, didn't he? What a scrote.

It can be hard (IMO) when dealing with real human beings (ok, men are barely human lol), to just cut them off at the first sign of disrespect - especially if they're attractive in some way, or we've had a dry spell. Ugh.

I can talk a really good game here, but the fact is I've only interacted with family or work males for 2 years, and while I believe I'm immune to dating disrespect, I am SO grateful to this group for helping keep us women safe from scrotes. I will definitely be coming here for advice when I decide to look again'

@Unimpressed 🤷🏼‍♀ - good job! You'll be even quicker next time

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Tisay.hapa

Jan 05

The apps are filled with leftovers and will give you burnout

Unimpressed 🤷🏼‍♀

Jan 06

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Oh, I know 😓 I'm hoping to meet more people IRL this year but I'm also not counting on it lol

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