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Basically what the title says.
I am so devastated. It hasn't even been two and a half months and he's already moved on?? I wonder if he's been talking to someone at the end of our relationship when he seemingly just... dropped all of his efforts.
I really thought he was "The One", that one day we'll get back together, etc. etc. And now I just feel so sad and confused and like I'll never find anyone even remotely as good as him (until the breakup he seemed HV).
Ladies, please send me kind words and support and help me deal with this nonsense. I still can't believe it's happening and that he's been able to move on so soon. It feels like none of his displays of affection have been real since he's able to find someone new mere weeks after our relationship. :(
People come people go. Unfortunately it’s part of life. Don’t grow attached to anyone I made that mistake and when the nice guy act dropped I kept holding on and allowed all kinds of disrespect. Such as sending flirty texts to women while I’m there. All because he’s bored of me. Let go because no man on this Earth is worth crying over.
The thing that men hate the most is when you display happiness and they are not the reason why you are happy. Men want to see you miserable without them even when they are the ones who break things off.
Be the best version of yourself. Level up, and leave him in the dust.
Your career stays with you longer than humans ever will so seek comfort in that and create a comfortable life for yourself.
Before you know it he’ll try to get back with you but do not accept him. Just ignore any attempt.
This is what men do though. We can't forget that men don't think like women. Their solution to heartbreak is to get a new woman as soon as possible. While women, most women anyways, take time to heal. Men don't take that time. They'll love to hop from woman to woman thinking sex will make them feel better. This is on par to a males nature so I am not surprised. We can't fall into the trap of assigning what a woman would do, to how you think a male should behave too.
Are you sure he was so HV until the breakup? It took me a while, but after my initial breakup hurt wore off, I realized that even the "HV" things about my ex weren't of such great value to me after all. 🤷♀️
It’s most likely that he was talking/taking her on dates before your breakup. Most men don’t end a relationship unless they have someone else locked in.
Breakups suck. But it’s not all bad. They’re just a part of life. Take this time to level up and work on yourself. When you feel ready , start dating. I know sometimes on here we dump on dating and all that but I think it can be fun. Eventually you’ll find someone and if you don’t, then at least you’ve levelled up and you’re probably living a great life.
I don’t get to sad after breakups anymore. I used to feel like I was going to die of a broken heart or something, but I found that the next guy was always better. I’m sure it’s the same for alot of women too. So maybe just focus on how the next guy will be waaaaay better as well as focusing on yourself.
Aww it’s okay :( look at it this way it’s his loss not yours! If he could move on that quickly then he wasn’t the one for you. Definitely take all the time you need to cry it out but don’t dwell on it forever. Take this as a sign to try to move on and focus on things that make you happy. Maybe spend more time with friends or start a new hobby I’ve recently gone through a breakup too two months ago and what’s working for me was going no contact and blocking him on social media. For all I know my ex could have a new girlfriend now but I simply don’t care because I’ve been trying to focus on myself and started new hobbies to keep busy and forget about him. Don’t worry the right guy will come along soon but in the meantime take this time to heal, grow and focus on yourself, spend time with friends and family and leave that guy in the past!
Men have no sense of object permanence when it comes to women. Most move on immediately and easily. It's all about whatever is benefitting at the time. All the men I've dated especially men who treated me well moved on almost immediately.
hes probably going to treat her just as bad if not worse. Feel lucky you dodged a bullet that makes him an ex. Remember all the things that pissed you off about your ex. I made a whole list that spanned like 3 pages on my phone of things I hated about that person.
Nothing pissed me off more than when he commented about a nice purse that I had. Instead of being happy for me, he questioned why I had a nice purse and had this weirded out look on his face. A man that doesn't want me to have nice things is someone that is not on my side.
I’m sorry I know it is so painful. Maybe check out “Coach Lee” on YouTube. He talks about rebounds in a lot of his no contact videos. He says it does not mean it is over FYI if you still want him. But girl it should!!!! I’m sorry but you need to see your value through your own eyes and not his. Easiest way to do this is decide YOU don’t want him back and understand he was a LVM pretending to be high value. If he was so high value you wouldn’t be hurting the way you are I’ll tell you that right now.
How fast a man (or anyone really) moves on doesn't mean anything. Plenty of people rebound because they just can't stand to be alone.
Here's my "ex quickly moving on" story that will hopefully put a smile on your face.
We were living together, both on the lease, but I was making twice as much as him. When we broke up (mutual in the sense of I said "I need this problem fixed like now", he said "it seems like you want to break up", "well I do if you won't fix the problem", "okay", "okay"), I offered to take over the lease as he really shouldn't pay that on his own. But he was too lazy to move, so I started looking for new places. Took me about 1.5 months to move out.
4 days after the breakup he had a date from Hinge, who he had met on Hinge literally later in the evening after we broke up (I snooped while he was on this date). While getting ready for the date he asked me fashion advice lol
I kept him very well informed on my moving timeline, and he knew the 2 hour window I'd be moving all my stuff out (with the help of friends, not even him) and would need the main kitchen-to-door pathway free. The day before he informs me he'll need to be in the kitchen exactly then to bake something for his new GF.
What did he end up making her? Some sort of coffee cake thing that he thought it was a good idea to put cut up little pieces of cheap hotdog in. Sadly, I'm an efficient mover and was not around when she came over to see her reaction.
She had moved in with him a couple weeks after I moved out. So I guess that solved his rent-paying issues.
Couple weeks later I got a big long apology email. Apparently his brother and SIL told him he screwed the pooch letting me break up with him because he refused to do the dishes (yes that was the issue - that would have been his one chore lol).
Over the next year his mom keeps trying to text/call me to catch up because she misses me. She still texts me happy birthday to this day. Apparently she accidentally calls his new GF my name sometimes (they are not similar names).
He was never blocked because he never really contacted me except for if I had mail or something after I moved out, and I wasn't gonna block him til the lease I was on ran out anyway. But maybe a year after the breakup I got a surprise text from him presumably looking to catch up. (He was and is still with the new GF.) I think whatever, this could be entertaining.
Cue a rant about how boring sex with new GF is because she won't do any degrading stuff past pick-me me was willing to do (but which he never got to do with me because he was always pornsick lol). I'll admit I got a little petty and very much talked up my new BF (who is the guy I'm still dating).
So anyway - moving on quick means nothing besides that that person lacks the ability to be alone. If anything, feel bad for the new GF.