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I went out with one guy. He had cystic acne in the past and it had cleared out. He also started hitting the gym. He had built some muscle.
We went on a date and he was very rude. He told me I'm weird when I said I like tattoos on women. He also said that he likes girls with blue eyes (I don't have) and that he wants a girl with a big a** but he hasn't dated one yet and he included me too. He was negging me constantly. He had also just broken up with his girlfriend of 4 years and he spoke about her and he said she cheated. I had common friends with her so I knew her slightly. I assumed that he would have been a good boyfriend.
I gave him a 2nd chance sadly. At the second date he picked me up with his car. I had no idea how to open the door cause the handle was weird and he started laughing and mocking me. We got out of the car and he started laughing and screaming at my face. It was very scary. We were in the car for most of the date and we were talking about music. We had the same music taste and he wanted to send me a song when he got home. He ended up sending it to me and he also texted "see? I didn't forget you".
I didn't reply to him again. We came face to face at the bus and I felt awkward not speaking to him. So I spoke to him (wrong of me) and he started saying how he went to a barber to get his beard trimmed and he has improved lookswise. I had braces on 4 teeth of mine to fix my bite and he made a comment on braces being gross. I also told him that I had started some hairdressing classes and i said that i was surprised that most students were men (I mean they taught barber stuff too so it wasn't surprising) and he said "yeah, right.." I dont know why he said that. I thought about it and maybe he assumed that I tried to make him jealous.
Anyways, I dont speak to him anymore. One time I was outside and he was near me and he turned around and gave me a mean look.
He literally put half the effort that women put in their looks. He still had flaws. But he felt so entitled to get whatever he likes and he bullied me for having things he doesn't like.
You should have walked right out in the middle of the first date. Seriously wtf.
The male ego is so warped and imbalanced. Guys will do one thing right once (go to the gym) and lord it over you like he's Fabio the supermodel and deserves a goddamn prize for it. Whereas women have to regularly do a million things just to be considered passably acceptable by society (go to the gym, salon, new outfits, good job, make money, be educated, be a mother, etc. etc. etc.).
This man sounds insufferable.
You need to fight for yourself harder. I dont think you are ready to date yet (and I 100% say this with love) because I would have started a full blown argument after the blue eyes comment. How dare he try to break your self esteem?? Who is this loser to think He has this much power?
But you are not there yet, you even saw him again which you know is bad. I highly encourage you to take a break from men for now so you can be ruthless with them when you have to be. You will see, you wont even care about any of his comments or opinions.
I would recommend learning how to strengthen your confidence and your ability to set boundaries and fight for them. Good luck!
He sounds like an Incel trying to be a "Chad". Avoid him at all costs.