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Yesterday I took my dog for a walk around my neighborhood and had stopped in a nearby mall to use the bathroom. As I was leaving, a guy said to me that my dog was cute and I said thanks. I was in the area for a bit then I started heading home and bumped into the same guy on a side street. We started chatting and he made a joke about how I was following him (BTW he was there first so it’s not really possible that he was the one who was following ME or anything). We were walking in the same direction for a bit and were continue chatting. Also first red flag: he mentioned that he was heading to the bank to pick up cash to buy a phone charger from someone he met online (idk why that just screams kinda broke to me but maybe it was a really good deal, idk, or possible he was lying and needed cash for something else like drugs etc.) Anyways, while chatting he brought up something politically controversial (won’t go into detail but it’s basically something that I agree with too), and the convo got pretty interesting and was going well. As we approached the point where we were going separate ways, he said something to to the effect of “you are incredibly beautiful, and I would love to continue this conversation. May I get your number, as I would love to take you to an *expensive* restaurant for lobster?”. I said sure and made a joke about how I actually prefer oysters to lobster. I gave him my number and we texted for a bit. He asked me what my plans were for the long weekend (as it’s a long weekend here in Canada). I said I was probably going to go hiking with my family. He said “I want to take you out for coffee/tea in Yorkville”. I don’t know why I didn’t just block/delete asap but for some reason I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed that he actually meant like brunch/lunch or something and he was just saying coffee. I responded back and said “I don’t really accept last minute dates or invites but we were having a really interesting conversation and I would like to continue it as well”. He then said something like “great, what day/time will you be free? BTW- it will just be coffee”. At that point I realized that this scrote pulled a bait and switch on me by telling me in person that he wanted to take me out to a *expensive* restaurant (his exact words), then downgraded to a coffee “date”. I responded “Actually I won’t be available for coffee, because I am worth more than that, best of luck!” Then he got blocked and deleted. I’ve said it before and I will say it again- SCROTE AUDACITY AND TRICKERY IS AT AN ALL TIME HIGH.
BTW- Yorkville is a really boujee/expensive area here in Toronto where I am located, so I believe he thought that he could mask a coffee date by saying it’s in Yorkville as if that would somehow impress me, like instead of buying me a $2 coffee, he would be buying me a $5 one LOL.
This just shows that they know coffee dates are unacceptable, if they go through the effort of baiting women with the promise of a real date.
And then they have the audacity to get mad when a woman they’ve promised a real date to wants a real date. 🙄
HAHA oh no is this the scrotes evolutionary adaptation to increasing standards? Mimicry? Sad!
If I could say one thing though, don't give away the playbook so they can manipulate the next girl better. You don't need to explain that you don't accept last minute invitations or coffee dates. Just don't accept them. And likewise you don't need to explain you'e worth more, when you really know you are.
Let them be alone forever with their crusty hands 😂 One loser tried this..last coffee date I'll ever accept was 1 year ago..took me to a 'boujee'place for it too with cake lmao! He ended up being a covert narcissist self proclaimed bisexual LGBT supporting narcissist hahaha. He even brought up poly on our second 'drinks' date and had loads of female 'friends'he kept mentioning to me, and mentioned prevoius dates he'd been on and trashed his ex wife too (huge red flags). This guy was a total loser and supposedly supported women's rights on his social media lmfaooo! Yet obviously treats the women he 'dates'like trash..cheap trash he was. So I blocked him on all platforms and won the game lol! Saw him in person a year later and his b*tch cowardly as* ran and hid from me in the store 😂😂 He knew I had standards since I'd shamed him for eben mentioned the idea of poly to me when he doesn't eben know me and that I'd clearly not been impressed with a low life loser. He eben said he didn't need to impress anyone lmao! They know they're scum that's why they do it. It reinforces the idea they know they're a POS and they're trying to find a woman who has low standards too! He'd mentioned public s*x on his social media too..these cheap stingy men are narcs and I said after that I'll never accept a coffee or tea get together with a man ever again in my life..even if it's family hahaha. These men have no standards even for themselves..They're Liars and predators so they have to try and force us to lower ours into the gutter too. Stick to your guns and boundaries. This one even said I intimidated him lmao! More like he knew I wouldn't make a good victim to abuse. Now after that horrific experience of being triangulated I now will never accept any cheap 'date'ever again in my life. I realize it's narcissists and abusers that wanna meet for coffee and predators cause they don't wanna invest in their prey..they want us to come to them for cheap and no cost to them. Predators are cheap and stingy with their money they spend on women, unless they want something from them like a green card them they'll actually take a woman out to dinner.
I never tell them what exactly put me off and just say, "Nah, I changed my mind." amd block. That's it. No further explanation. They know exactly whay they are doing.
It struck me as sus when he made a special point of saying he's going to take you to an "expensive" restaurant. Clearly he thought he was being impressive. But it's just crass.
There's a lesson here and it's "beware of blowhards!" Their mouths are constantly writing checks their ass can't cash.
There’s this guy that’s been coming around and showing consistency and very gentlemanly. He even said he didn’t want to take me for coffee but somewhere “special” but I can’t after the told me he summoned a demon with the satanic bible AND he called CPS on one of his exes..can’t win for losin’..