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I want to share a comment from an ex scrote to work out how this would have landed with you and how you would have handled it.
I was in a short-term r'ship with someone who I met whilst training for an endurance event. I was training 5-6 times a week and was really lean as a result.
I took a little time off from my training and we were in the bedroom (this is like, 3 months in) when he looked at my rear area and asked me, verbatim, 'have you put some [weight] on?'
Needless to say I felt super uncomfortable and I called him out on it next time I saw him. I got a huge apology. He explained he actually liked the look of me with more weight in that area/was trying to be complimentary.
In hindsight I wonder whether I should have dumped him immediately. Hindsight is 20/20 but how would this land with ya'll?
Horribly. Inspecting my arse like I'm prize cattle then having the audacity to comment on it would be an instant fuck-off-and-lose-my-number. Walloper.
Even the most moronic LVM knows better than to comment on a woman’s weight. 🚩🚩🚩
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YES YES IMMEDIATELY DUMP. Jesus Tapdancing Christ I am so angry just reading this. He literally called you a fatass WHILE FUCKING YOU. GIRL. GIRL SNAP OUT OF IT. Get up and LEAVE. Get up and leave any time a man insults you, anywhere, in any situation. Or, be like, "Is your dick small? Are you bad in bed and cannot make me orgasm, and are probably gay?" and after that get up and LEAVE.
His apology was fake too, btw.
This is beyond a red flag. It's an absolute dealbreaker.
Anyone with half a brain knows that asking someone if they've put on weight is almost never a compliment. He knew what he was doing with that comment. He was negging you, probably to erode your confidence. You absolutely should dump him and to answer your question, it's a glaring red flag.
He was trying to negg you while pegging, his dick is broken. 🚩🚩
Policing women's weight is never a good look. I call bull. If the comment was meant to be in a complimentary light, he would have made that statement that instead.
Glad you took out the trash! Was it this comment that did it or something else?
Men don't realize how self conscious women are about our bodies. What they might find attractive, we might find unattractive. I was living in Oakland, CA for 3 months for a work assignment. Oakland is predominantly black. I, Hispanic/white female, was walking down the street and this black male yelled out how "thick" I was. I was horrified. He saw the look on my face. To him he was complimenting me. To me he was calling me fat. So this guy was just being dumb by not understanding how women take comments on our bodies. But it's annoying