Well well..

But then you have that guy that you want thinking that You watch it because you asked that question. So, you found a good guy and he thinks you're not someone he'd like to date...

Continuously vet, it is something to find out later, but not long in the grand scheme. When following the handbook it doesn’t hurt or seem like the world drops honestly.

I’m having a lot of fun in the beginning but also eyes wide open. Not jumping to conclusions bc of past trauma or fixated on “finding evidence” but waiting for them to bring it up, because they will. Little clues will be there and then i find they always full on admit it when you’re not up grilling them about those.

They’ll admit it. The last guy I was seeing long enough to be making out with admitted it, about a month in. He said he was a little exhausted from watching videos earlier and I was like what do you mean. I had enough of a suspicion from some other really subtle giveaways I just found out like the night or two prior and it just confirmed it. Squeaky clean SM and then sharing tiktoks with him I could see his account and they were all strangers or hobby acts but two were questionable.

I shared my stance after he admitted it and he said he totally agrees and he didn‘t think of it like I did (harming women as a whole, general respect) and I didn’t really buy it but we had a date planned for a holiday so I went and then afterwards checked his sm following again and it actually increased in questionable accounts so I just blocked and deleted. Not worth “explaining what I meant” again.

Once is enough to share know this is limiting my pool but I’m at a place where I really don’t care. I’m not interested in guys that haven’t done the work themselves, like with other bad habits.

I will share how I feel once maximum once it is clear as day, what they do with that is up to them. It takes about a month to figure it out for me. There’s men who don’t and it’ll come up in due time. Advice is have fun, do not be attached, do not reveal this as a dealbreaker from the get go (most men already don’t flaunt their habit, you don’t want to give them a tip to hide it better), do not sleep with them, and once you find out they crossed your boundary, leave.

Vetting men for porn sickness is essential. Here's some clues to find out without over stepping or blatantly asking. -- Does he have social media? Who does he follow on instagram? Insta models are rarely fully clothed. If he's interested in seeing bikini models whenever he's bored, he's never more than a few swipes from masturbation. -- "I think OF has been detrimental to women." You say, if he replies with a bunch of "It's empowering to content creators", "I think it's better than regular corn because...", "Some women have become millionaires on OF, it's entrepreneurial!" These are the excuses of a man who knows he's benefitting from OF and women are being conned. What's more, he's okay with it and he just wants to make sure you're still okay with him. --