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And I find it interesting to dive into his reasoning for this decision. His TL, DR for the video is: "There's nothing that I get being married, that I don''t get by just being in a long-term relationship." and he also says it's just easier to walk away the minute he wants out.
Ain't that funny? Hahaha
Ladies, that is why we don't do wifey shit for men and we don't move in with them before marrige. Ever.
He comments on how she changed a few months after getting married. She shaved her head wihtout talking to him about it first and he said it killed the attraction he felt for her. She didn't take into consideration his preferences regarding her appearence - how dare she?!?!?!?! And he couldn't simply walk away because divorce means lawers and is expensive, etc. He also talked about "dead bedrooms" and how she would manipulate him into doing house chores in exchange for sex.
Dude, when your wife has to prostitute herself to have you do house chores, she isn't the problem...
Then he talks about how it is annoying to ask your spouse for permission to do things. Like if a friend invited him to go out, he would have to check with his wife if it was okay for him to go. And yet just a few minutes before he complained about how she shaved her own head without talking to him about it first. The audacity!!!!!
Now, about finances... Needless to say what kind of approach he takes. "I don't want to be successful and have somebody take advantage of it" because somehow a wife who makes a man's life better (otherwise he wouldn't be with her) and takes care of the house alone - when she is not in the mood to prostitute herself to her own husband - is not entitled to keep some of his assets in case they both decide to divorce. He assumed he would be the successful spouse and the one who would "loose" money to his ex-spouse. I wonder what his thoughts would be if she was the one making a lot more money than him while he had to take care of the house all by himself. He also said he doesn't want to be a provider for someone who "just wants to be at home and take care of the kids" because he doesn't want to have kids and therefore he doesn't want to be a paycheck to his wife.
I guess he's not taking into account that an active sex life for straight couples means pregnancy risk. And abortions aren't legal in most countries. He might don't want to have kids, but that's a thing that can happen if he has sex, even if it is protected sex because contraceptive methods aren't always100% effective.
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To be fair, he did say a few things that i agreed with. He doesn't want to have kids and people call him selfish for that, which is annoying. He doesn't need to be married to be faithful and be in a commitment. He doesn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be intimate with him (which I think is a good thing because it means he wouldn't force or pressure a woman into having sex with him. Sounds like he prefers enthusiastic consent). He talks about how sad it is to see couples who clearly hate each other but won't walk away from the relationship. He also said that having kids with the purpose of having them take care of you when you're old is a shitty thing to do.
His video was almost exactly what I expected, but at the same time I did leran a thing or two more about the male perspective regarding marriage. I'm 4B and solo for life, so I get some of his reasons to remain single.
Anyway, I just wanted to share my thoughts on this and know what you guys think.
I'm sorry, but if either a wife or husband full out loses attraction to their spouse based merely on the spouse cutting off or changing their hair (!), they probably shouldn't have married in the first place. I'm glad so many people are opting out of marriage because they seem to not have a clue as to what such a contract entails anyway.
Some of his points are problematic but he raises some good points too.
I don’t agree on one account - I can completely understand him not finding his wife attractive after she shaved her head. While her hair is hers, let’s be real; if you change something about yourself that your spouse found attractive, it makes sense for them to lose attraction.
If a woman prefers an athletic man and her boyfriend becomes obese and says he “has a right to” because “it’s his body”, would she be wrong for losing attraction towards him?
I personally, don’t listen to men go on about what they “will and won’t accept” from women.
Most men (not all 🙄) are parasites who want to use women as resources, and Get Without Giving. This scrote sounds like all the rest.
What if a man just goes bald all of a sudden? Without asking for my approval? The audacity!