I can't speak for her entire column, but it is refreshing to see an advice columnist not resort to being "no BS" on the woman and coddling the man. IMO this dynamic is not fixable. He doesn't want her.
She is bending over backwards and sacrificing things she *should* (IMO) have in such a hypothetical scenario (i.e. child support): "See? I'm a good woman! I won't just not screw you over, I will give you extra and deny myself!"
ETA: I have also noticed when the sexes are flipped, the men resentful of "her view on men" can be abusers themselves but paint themselves as "the good guy."
The only thing I disagree with is the therapist suggested therapy when she should have suggested breaking up.This man is using the woman. His complaints about his ex-wife and mother of the baby to which he contributed sperm are ridiculous.Don’t ever go out with a man who complains his ex received a fair share in the divorce and that he has to pay child support. I can’t believe this woman has paid $5,000 to help him go to court and set up a room for his son. He’s obviously with her because she’s willing to bank roll him, and him whining about his exes is his way of saying “I hate women and I don’t want to marry you.” He’s setting low expectations for her.
1000000% agree. ANY MAN who complains about paying any child support (aside from complaints to the actual intermediary government offices themselves, but not to PAYING the CS itself: those are two different things) is a deadbeat and is a NVM.
Wow wow wow. He has her so she cannot backfoot hard *enough.*. She really is “the whole team”.
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May 23, 2022
I thought the columnist gave a great response. But then I clicked on another post of hers and it was terrible. Basically asked the husband to divorce the wife of 7 years because she doesn’t want kids. Lol. Welp
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May 24, 2022
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what if the wife doesn’t want kids because she feels unsafe because of the trauma she been through and the negativity online? has this possibility not been considered?or if the wife is barren and therefore can’t have kids but the husband wants kids, shall the husband then divorce the wife?many people don’t really have a good grasp of what they want and who they are. shouldn’t the spouse look to dissect the underlying reasons for wanting or not wanting kids instead of giving divorce as a blanket solution?
No. It doesn’t matter why she doesn’t want kids and why he does, the fact of the matter is that they’re not compatible. They should have discussed it before getting married tbh. It’s not politically correct, but as a cf woman I’d much rather divorce the love of my life than have his baby. I don’t want kids and that’s that. No amount of arguing about it will change my mind.
Yes, this is valid. I would say this is a discussion prior to marriage. But once you are in the position and these things are issues you cannot ignore them.
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I can't speak for her entire column, but it is refreshing to see an advice columnist not resort to being "no BS" on the woman and coddling the man. IMO this dynamic is not fixable. He doesn't want her.
She is bending over backwards and sacrificing things she *should* (IMO) have in such a hypothetical scenario (i.e. child support): "See? I'm a good woman! I won't just not screw you over, I will give you extra and deny myself!"
ETA: I have also noticed when the sexes are flipped, the men resentful of "her view on men" can be abusers themselves but paint themselves as "the good guy."
The only thing I disagree with is the therapist suggested therapy when she should have suggested breaking up. This man is using the woman. His complaints about his ex-wife and mother of the baby to which he contributed sperm are ridiculous. Don’t ever go out with a man who complains his ex received a fair share in the divorce and that he has to pay child support. I can’t believe this woman has paid $5,000 to help him go to court and set up a room for his son. He’s obviously with her because she’s willing to bank roll him, and him whining about his exes is his way of saying “I hate women and I don’t want to marry you.” He’s setting low expectations for her.
Her pickme behavior is so cringe, I couldn't keep reading.
Wow wow wow. He has her so she cannot backfoot hard *enough.*. She really is “the whole team”.
I thought the columnist gave a great response. But then I clicked on another post of hers and it was terrible. Basically asked the husband to divorce the wife of 7 years because she doesn’t want kids. Lol. Welp