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I met a handsome man in a business setting. Our eyes met and we instantly smiled at each other. The attraction was immediate. We began chatting and I used all the body language I could to show I was interested, and he did the same.
We began talking about drinks that were being served and one of the drinks had a name that had the word "red" in it. He ordered that drink and then said to me, "Because I love redheads." I'm blonde...
I instantly reverted back to my ice queen self and excused myself from the conversation. He was obviously not prepared for that and tried to hang around me the rest of the event to get our flirty banter back. Nah.
He had all the green lights in the world but still had to get a tiny neg in to let me know that I wasn't his ideal in his misogynistic categorization of women. They just can't help themselves.
He just won a scrote prize for fitting MULTIPLE red flags into just a few words.
He's negging you. He damn well knew you are a blonde. He wanted to let you know that he thinks you're subpar to his preference, and that you'll never live up to that.
He's pornsick and sees women just as objects- redheads are a category of porn.
He was shit testing you to see if you'd give a pickme style response like laughing, going along with him, acting cool, or even suggesting you could dye your hair. He's looking for someone to do whatever he wants and stroke his ego.
You did amazing though and handled his BS like a pro. Props to you for seeing and acknowledging that first red flag and immediately and cautiously removing yourself from that situation and him. Also props to you for not "correcting" or "teaching" him about what he did wrong- keep em clueless so the next women can hopefully spot the red flag fast and run.
I bet he's wondering what happened. He was just showing his appreciation for female beauty after all! He appreciates all kinds of women: teen, busty latina, submissive asian, exotic ebony, milf... 🤢 I'm glad you dodged this particular bullet hon.
Well done to you! This is the kind of action I like women to take. Once a man shows you how disrespectful he is, cut him off immediately. They always know what they’re doing and will be shocked if you cut them off right away because most women excuse their behaviour away and stick around.
The more women do this, the more men will know that they either need to change their behaviour or get left in the dust, to be even lonelier than they already are.
Also pornsick. "I love readheads", omg...
Here's how I used to handle this sh*t, I had dark hair, so every single guy I dated would tell me how much he preferred blondes, so I would simply smile and agree and tell him how much I preferred blond men myself. The men I was dating all had dark hair. Took the wind right out of their sails. 😏
Then after hearing this line for years I decided to go blonde. And guess what happened? Every single man I dated wanted to open up the evening by trying me how much he preferred brunettes.
Whatever it is you are, tall, short, blonde, brunette, college degree, no college degree, they will tell you the opposite would be better.
A year ago, I was at a party, and my friends and I were eating dinner and catching up, and this guy went up to us and put his garbage on our table and walked back to his friends and looked at us. He wanted us to talk to him. All we did was gather our stuff and walked off.
The guy you described is just like this and I can’t stand men who are like this!
Years ago, I stumbled someone giving me a similar comment (but it was about makeup). I simply said: "I'll take your suggestion in consideration."
I just kept doing my makeup in that particular way just because I wanted to be petty.
Are you a cool blonde or strawberry blonde? I mean you’re probably right about this and he’s just a dumb male, but there are various kinds of deficiencies potentially involved 😂 Men are blind sometimes too…could he just be severely color-dumb? 😂😂