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I know, I know, we're not supposed to care! Part of me is going Hahahahahhaa! And the other part of me is academically interested.
The recent post sharing the podcast of Princella, thank you LBC Tosca, got me watching J Peterson video which thus far I have avoided like the plague, but it was embedded in hers. So for the first time I heard his theory on why boys and men aren't doing as well anymore. I think he has a good viewpoint since he is very able to tap into the young male psyche.
The point of JP's video was that men don't have an internal drive to do anything and need responsibility foisted on them from outside. They need responsibility to gain a purpose in life. Princella decimated men based on this which was hilarious and insightful, because it truly isn't women's problem if men are pointless. Also women are better leaders.
I also read the post about What’s the Matter with Men? | The New Yorker. It says essentially the same thing. It "argues that the rapid liberation of women and the labor-market shift toward brains and away from brawn have left men bereft of what the sociologist David Morgan calls “ontological security.” They now confront the prospect of “cultural redundancy,” Reeves writes. He sees telltale signs in the way that boys are floundering at school and men are leaving work and failing to perform their paternal obligations."
Translation: women don't need men to provide, and men aren't responsible adults. According to JP, they have no life purpose. According to me, men don't get their way easily and so they give up because they've been brought up to be entitled. And then they sit at home playing video games and getting depressed.
Remember that men have to be needed or they feel ridiculously insecure. That's because if we don't need them we can leave, and then they have no purpose in the world.
We don't need them. It's only the ridiculous patriarchy that turned the natural order on it's head that made us need them. Imagine being chained to such a waste of space?
As much as we don't need to spend time figuring out male behaviour - we just accept it for what it is and move on, I think it's helpful to realise just how basic and insecure most men are. Internalise their mediocrity.
And be proud of being a woman. We are amazing.
I blame their pornsickness. Porn has hijacked their motivation to grow into fully realised human beings. Ogling videos that exploit and degrade women and children for their entertainment is a lot easier than actually putting in effort into becoming an emotionally intelligent and sensible adult.
They always get the instant gratification at the end of the video. There’s no guarantee that there’s going to always be a reward when you’re making choices every day to grow and mature though.
Part of being a sensible mature human is knowing that growth involves risks and sometimes taking an L here and there when plans don’t work out. Porn always gives them what they want though. Why would a devolved subhuman creature want to strive for the sophistication of self-actualisation?
Agreed. I pity most men. They really are pathetic creatures. They write their own unhappiness and have no one but themselves to blame and yet they always blame women.
Women were forcibly domesticated by men thousands of years ago. They looked at animals in nature and saw the males were only used for breeding and were otherwise a) useless or b) a threat to children —and they saw their fate. We were goddesses and they turned us into cattle. They starved us and our daughters so we would be malnourished, petite, short, and fragile. We’re not naturally smaller and weaker -it’s intentional. The first thing ancient male-led cultures did to decimate another culture in war was to tear them down: tell them their gods were really demons, tell them they are stupid savages, destroy all their ancestral & cultural knowledge, and enslave them. This is what happened to women. We have almost no evidence of if anything came before men’s rule. It was stamped out and our history and value was written by men —the victors in the original gender war. They wrote our reality and today women are starting to realize we are living a lie.
They forced us into servitude to increase their odds of not just survival, but living comfortably. Would you prefer to hunt and forage every day for every meal or to f*ck around all day while a woman makes you food, a woman does all the childcare, and a woman spends hundreds of hours spinning and weaving and sewing to make you clothes and bedding to stay warm? Of all the many, many cultures around the world, only one remote indigenous tribe in South America had men and women equally involved in creating cloth. One. Misogyny is as old as the first spindle whorls.
Men spent millennia centering themselves and grooming women into the perfect slaves so they could do whatever they wanted. Women need to stop centering men. Stop helping them. Stop caring. We need to let the useless ones fail. Let them die. We need to get angry and enjoy the sweet, sweet revenge we are currently witnessing. Our matrilineal ancestors are screaming at us. Embrace the change. Embrace our return to our deserved elevated status. What is god but that which can create life from thin air? We have the ability to birth nations. Men have always been terrified of our power. Let’s show them why their fear is deserved.
If you’re interested in women’s history I highly recommend “Women’s Work: The First 20,000 years” by Elizabeth Wayland Barber
https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Work-First-Years-Society/dp/0393313484/
The only life purpose men in general have (and I mean this biologically) is to mate with females. That's it. That's all. Nothing else. So they turn to stalking, raping, killing, and all manner of oppression toward women to get their needs met. We don't need them. The only thing we could possibly need is their sperm for reproduction, and thankfully the Y chromosome is shrinking into nothingness, so the natural order of things may finally retake the planet, I hope.
I don’t really believe that there is a male mental health crisis. I’ve read too many Reddit threads from girls about how their boyfriends are MIA and can barely function only to read comments about how he’s probably depressed and she just needs to be supportive. What I think is really happening is that a lot of men are stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy. Their life sucks so they sit around all day doing things that they know will make it suck more. It’s like smoking. Nobody picks up a pack of cigarettes today without knowing it’s a bad thing to do. Every piece of media for the last twenty years has made fun of guys who sit at home and play video games or watch porn all day — sure, shitty male behavior is often rewarded in media but NOT anti-social behavior — there is no way in hell that a man can seriously be making that his life and not realize he’s the problem, unless he’s just extremely stubborn and narcissistic.
The problem is that boys/men are turning to mass shootings and alt-right bullshit as their purpose. I think we can't just wholly ignore the problem, but we can't solve it for them either.
As a mom of a boy, I am sad to be reading this. However, I see I as my job as a mother, to not have my son be entitled. He is the sun in my world, he knows that, but he is going to help me carry groceries from the car, even is he is only five - there is no choice. He needs to tidy up his toys, even if he hates it. He is not getting special treatment. He is still young, I will lift him up when he is sad, and be there for him when he has his tantrums. I hope that he sees me, his mom - full of self-respect, and a woman who demands respect. That is going to be normal for him. I am hoping that this will influence him to know that there is no special treatment for him because he is a boy. And I hope that him treating a woman bad will feel very foreign and uncomfortable for him. I want my son to be happy, and the only way he can truly be that, I believe, is being a HVM.
A few men have told me that they will get their life together and work harder after marriage, because then they will have a purpose to work for. Working hard after marriage is good, but not having their life together while single always rubbed me the wrong way. I can't rely on what he might become.
I found myself academically interested in this topic as well, even though I know it's not our collective problem as women to really do anything about it. ?