The truth behind mixed signals

We have all heard of it by now. "Take mixed signals as a no" "If he doesn't like you, you will be confused". We have probably all experience a man going hot and cold, the push and pull dynamic (where if you chase, he pulls back, when you pull back, he chases or does grand gestures).

Ever notice how men seem to sense when you stop caring, how they sense you having second thoughts about the relationship, how they will reappear in your life usually through your phone the moment you stop thinking about them?

It's almost like they can detect your indifference.

That is quite simply because, they can. Gender roles like to emphasize women's emotional inteligence, greater maturity and complexity. This makes us believe that men are stupid, can't read signals, and hold these primitive caveman brains in their skulls (especially when it comes to sex).

This makes it easy for us to make excuses for men, which is the goal of the patriarchy, to make men escape accountability for their actions - Oh he wasnt thinking straight he was just overcome with lust. He didnt mean to hurt me he just cant process/control his emotions. Maybe hes going through shit, maybe he has attachment issues or addictions made him do it.

It doesnt help that people excuse them with "men dont think clearly until after they've slept with a woman". This is biggest myth of all time by the way. Men are thinking very clearly when they seduce women, they enjoy the act, the deception, and they discuss their strategies with their boys after saying "I can't believe that worked! she totally fell for it!".

Men are much more intuitive than anyone gives them credit for. They know EXACTLY what they're doing. And they often know when a woman is into them. Yep, they know that you had a crush on them! But when they are not into her, they will keep her around and breadcrumb because they enjoy the attention women give them. Because men think with their egos, they enjoy the idea of being the best a woman has ever had and are TERRIFIED of that woman finding a better man. They are highly competitive with other men, they dont want another man winning your attention, they want to be the *best*. That is why they lovebomb, it is not just to get you attached! Its because they love the idea of being the best a woman has ever had, it strokes their egos greatly.

I have experienced this first hand, as my ex used to say the following;

"No one would love you as much as I do / Most people aren't me, they wouldnt go to the lentghs i have gone for you"

"I'm just worried some guy better will come along and you will leave me"

Thats why when they fuck up, and you're finally thinking "im done i want to break up / cut ties" they will suddnely start love bombing again. They have a sixth sense for our indifference. And remember to never trust any grand gesture if its not everyday - its manipulation. Only when they sense your indifference will they break out of their nonchalance and chase to win back your attention and infactuation with them.

Also, men HATE being alone, they're fucking terrified of it. So even if they are not into you they will keep you around, doing grand gestures, re-entering your life and increasing their affection whenever you become indifferent.

The only reason they might disappear for good or their behavior suddenly changes is because they found another woman they are actually into or just another woman they want to string along.

Men know exactly what their doing, never forget it. Mixed signals are not just "in your head", that guy knows you are into him and makes sure you keep crushing on him by stringing you along, breadcrumbing, and assessing what they can take from you. Normally it is simply your attention for a quick ego boost, however it may even be sex or getting that women to lend them their money, time and resources. This is why men often come back into your life once you stop thinking about them, or you found another man. And why you should never drop hints, they already know you're into them just by looking at you.