"Straight" men trying to act gay

Men have caught on to the fact that homophobia is actually a sign of homosexuality, so many try to overcompensate to prove they are straight. That's why many men wear pink- like, "Look at me! I'm so secure in my masculinity that I can wear this traditionally feminine color. I'm soooo confident!"

So many men are just freaking pathetic. Desperately out to prove a point at all times. AkShuAllY.

I'm not sure if they intentionally "act gay"

I don't believe you can act gay. Gay men can be different from each other and lesbians can act different from each other too.

I feel like with the clothes, it's kind of the style right now. I've seen the leggings and the slim fit joggers on men when they're going for runs in my neighborhood or at the gym.

The Botox? I'm not sure about. I've only known gay men that do that 😂

I know we drag men for being gross, lazy, unwashed etc. and that's what I'm used to, but even straight men might be panicking about looking old and Botox and fillers are seen as normal.

It seems like these cosmetic procedures are just the norm now. I know alot of women starting at a young-ish age. There's lots of men that spend time on social media as well. So they probably get that massaging that wrinkles are bad. Ageing is bad etc.

As for the lisp. I was reading something years ago, that throughout history women tend to create and change language (or something like that) because they raise children.

So if a boy is surrounded by women growing up,I could see him picking up the speech patterns from his mom/sisters etc.

that's just a theory though.

Well this is weirdly coincidental.

I live in the Midwest and don't encounter this. But this week I'm at a conference on the east coast (and a left-leaning conference) and I was noticing this without being able to put words to it.

But yes, many of them are acting in "stereotypical gay" ways (though obviously yeah, not all actual gay men act the same). It's really been throwing me off because I've been showing up to these networking things prepared with "I'm a bitch don't you dare hit on me at this professional event" vibes, then I feel safer from being hit on for a minute and act nice, then they fucking hit on me. Grrr.

I don’t mind them doing that stuff. I think that’s a non-issue.

My problem is some of them will uplift and even “pretend” to flirt with gay men while treating women disrespectfully or straight up ignoring them.

Haha yes!! I don't think it is "acting gay" but i know what you mean. I definitely noticed this a couple of years ago after changing regions and going to a much larger city. I think it's a middle class urban thing.

On the one hand they were interested in hair and skincare products and adornments and looking good (which is fine), on the other they had a kind of cattiness I would honestly usually associate with women, but it's combined with a kind of male entitlement and bantering aggression. They might indeed be arguing about hair and thousand dollar pastel shoes....but they're still the loudest people in the room 😂 i noticed the speech patterns too. It messed with my head a bit 😂 they also perceived me as being quite masculine.

I listened to quite a good podcast recently about lgbtq issues and the host theorised that the more of a "laptop" job you have, the less important gender differences are, and specifically ideas of traditional masculinity become less important. Might be something in it, i don't know 🤷‍♀️

It's the casual homophobia for me. Pretty sure this is a troll. Nice try though. By the way, if straight men took care of themselves (e.g. got botox and cared about their appearance) we'd all be rly thankful for it!