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How much was your stupid sports car? Or the TV that takes up your whole wall? Your monthly bill of EVERY streaming service imaginable, and your worthless video game set up?
How about the cost of one stupid, soul-sucking gaming console?
“Ew, this woman I pretend to care about wants a [high-end, good quality, finely crafted receptacle to hold all necessary items which she uses daily] purse! What a waste of money! GOD just think of all the other things (OnlyFans subscriptions, paid-in-game pixel weapons for my video game) I could spend my money on!”
Yes, indeed, why buy a woman something she likes and uses regularly. Indeed, why seek out the company of a woman at all?
And these dumb ass men just volunteer this information, that they think expensive purses are a stupid waste of money.
Did I ask? Did I say anything about purses? Oh, no, you just wanted to set the stage so I would never DREAM of asking you for such a RIDICULOUS gift. “Hey babe, could you please buy this new console and new video game, and this noise-cancelling headset so that I can watch you ignore me? 🥰” That’s my line, right? To show you that I’m SO not like the other girls ✌️
True to FDS form: don’t complain, don’t explain.
What I said instead was,
“Hello, thank you for lunch. However, I don’t see us being compatible long-term. Take care.”
Blocked. Deleted.
It’s a trend, ladies. This is the third guy who’s causally, on a date, brought up how “stupid” and “wasteful” an expensive purse is, how he just doesn’t get it. I never ask. And I do carry a nice purse, granted it’s not like LV with the brand signature all over it. I prefer a solid colored leather purse with the brand printed very small, if it’s visible at all. So, did he think it wasn’t designer and was trying to impress me with “perceived” shared values? Or did he know it was designer and was negging me?My head hurts trying to make sense of it 🤦♀️
They told me men were stupid, but goddamn. I thought they wanted to bang us? But they’re actively doing shit to turn us off??? FROM OUT THE GATE?!
Lord have mercy.
In my teens and twenties, I was often astounded by the amount of money men (even "poor college students") spent on themselves. Video games, alcohol, sports, concert tickets, vacations, haircuts, clothes.
The money they spent on themselves was multiples of what they were willing to spend on a measly dinner for two. But these scrotes would have you believe a $50 dinner would have imploded their bank accounts.
Bottom line: Don't ever let a man tell you your tastes are too expensive. If you're both from the same socioeconomic class, chances are, whatever you spend on yourself pales in comparison to what he spends on himself.
He says it's crazy to spend $1000 on a handbag? If he's upper-middle class, he probably spent $1000 on alcohol alone in the past month for him and his buddies. Ask me how I know.
I’ve had guys make these comments about my purses. I go for the “loud” pieces when I’m on a date. But I don’t look like a walking billboard. Personally, I like to wear one “loud” luxury pieces and a few “quiet” ones.
They’d talk often about how frugal they are and buy their clothes from H&M and Uniqlo (no hate to these brands since I wear them too), and they don’t understand why I would spend money on something expensive as such, or how an item could be “that expensive” and I’d say shit like, “oh wow so my bag cost more than your entire outfit” 🤷🏻♀️ 😝. Some of the guys who are sharp, will shut up and know that I’m insulting them. Others just drone on and on hahahah
They complain about things like that to see of you are a pickme dust chaser ready to put yourself and other women down for crumbs.
Trash took itself out.
It's not just classic "girly" things like purses, jewellery, make up or clothes they have a problem with. It's pretty much everything they don't consider "worthy". I used to get comments all the time about money I spend on my pets, for example.
$500 for a gaming console? $2000 for a computer? Thousands for fancy rims and other useless car stuff? Totally reasonable expenses to them. But spend that much on a vet bill, an aviary or a high quality cat tree that lasts instead of the crap you get for cheap... you know... stuff that improves the quality of life of living breathing creatures completely at our mercy... and they go completely crazy.
The way negging so often just confuses and irritates women, instead of the desired outcome, which is to turn us into pickmes. Men are failures at everything.
Like you rightly said, men should leave us alone if everything about us bothers them so much. Also, as you pointed out, did he think he could make fun of purses because you came across as not high-maintenance? It always astounds me how men feel this weird need to put down one woman in order to compliment another.
The fact that this is the third guy to complain shows just how hate-filled men are. Again, they should just stay away from us.
Lastly, good on you for cutting this moron off.
I'm expensive, I've been told. Yes, I am that chick at the airport with multiple pieces of LV branded Luggage. Why? Because I can. I don't want to nor will I explain myself to anyone. I have quite a few luxury bags/purses and jewelry... because I do. I see the vitriol people have for LV and other bags and I think it's because of the mental gymnastics people play; disdain for things they cannot afford. It's a flex to them. And so, for men who cannot afford to spend money for nice things, they will try to negate you for doing so. I've heard all of the questions, well do you invest, that's what you should be doing! Do you own a home??? That's what you need to do. I smile and say indeed. Smart women always take care of the necessities first and then their desires, as they should. Women will always work harder than men if society has it's way. So, I ensure that I am always taking the best care of myself for my necessities, my future. and goals...and then I get to splurge away on my desires. I love to see grandmothers and mothers gift their well-loved luxury jewelry, handbags/luggage, stocks, property to their daughters and granddaughters, I will be doing the same when the time comes.
Live well and be carefree.
Don't men generally buy watches worth far more than birkins? The man you're talking to is delusional and this is probably his way of getting attention from women it seems to be working for him based on this post.