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This Swedish dude abandoned his family so he could ski. No excuses, just pure selfishness.
I'm beginning to think Princella is right: men are not capable of love. Women are the only ones who protect and provide.
A few quotes from the article:
"...We returned to Sweden shortly before the first winter snow. Our finances were strained, but I bought myself an excellent pair of skis and a ski rack for the car without giving it a second thought.
I started making regular trips up north. The air was cold and clear in the silent spruce forests. I felt invigorated, completely at one with myself, my body, my masculinity, my emotions and the loss of my father. Amid solitude and motion my grief found an easy outlet...."
"...On an intellectual level I understood that I was being an idiot. I wanted to be a good father and a good man, but deep down I was terrified of being trapped – and that angered me. Could she not understand that the only way for me to be present was to be absent much of the time?"
"...I did the race. I broke my promise. My wife stood helplessly at the door as I got in the car to head north. She looked at me as if I were dead."
Women aren't the ones that are notoriously known to abandon their children or leave their husbands for having a terminal illness. So men are definitely NOT protectors or providers. Men took on the role of "protection & provision" to uphold the patriarchal system where they claim to themselves a "useful" role in society. Because men are the expandable gender by nature and they know it, so they needed to give themselves an important role to feel important, unlike women who are inherently valuable by nature, we don't need to prove our value, we just are. And now that women can make their own money thus needing men less and less, women are starting to wake up to the truth of men's uselessness.
We don't need them to protect and provide. Protect us from what? Wild animals? The only thing we have always needed protection from is MEN.
And what do they provide for us? Money? We were naturaly able to have access to resources until men stole our natural right to access resources to force us to need them and depend on them (financially) so that they can have control over us. Not to mention strategically gaslighting us under the patriachal conditionig that we are worthless without a man so that we become desperate for the title of having a man in our lives no matter how useless, ugly or abusive the man was.
When in reality it's the complete opposite, men need us, so they needed to "convince" us that we needed them, or how could they have had access to us otherwise? Marketing 101: Give them the solution to a problem you created.
We say it's in men's nature to protect and provide, but if that truly was the case, then why do we keep seeing droves of men complaining and bitching about paying for alimony and child support? Why do we have droves of men screaming and moaning about "divorce rape" and gold diggers? If it were in their nature to hand out their resources to women then we wouldn't have had all these scotes screaming at the top of their lungs about such things.
Also how many times have we seen men actually protecting women? Do they protect us from street harrasment? Do they protect us from oppression? No, because they are the main cause of such oppression! And take a look at the prank videos were men end up abandoning the woman they are with when a jump scare occures and tell me how these mofos are protectors.
It's crazy how men with daddy issues are always obsessed with the idea that following in their absent father's foosteps is the epitome of masculinity.
It also feels like young men, from puberty to when they finally get married, are chasing that same idea of "masculinity" through external validation, sexual gratification and the constant chasing of women without a single thought about what they truly want or who they truly want to be. They simply don't give a shit about self improvement, unless it's something that could possibly allow them to sleep with more women (gym rats come to mind). And then, they eventually slow down and get married to one woman because society and the rules of hegemonic masculinity dictate that they have to do so.
They marry whatever woman is standing by their side when they "feel ready", they proceed to have 2.5 kids and then.... nothing. Because there is no other box to check after this. They've "made it", and that's when they finally realize how empty their existence has been and will remain because all they've ever done is chasing ghosts. Cue existential crisises where they start desperately chasing a freedom they feel they were stripped of (and of course they blame their poor wives for the "lies that society has fed them") and the rest is history. They think their own deadbeat dad, though his emotional unavailability and constant avoidance of family life, had cracked the code to ultimate freedom. Suddenly they start rewiring the roots of their abandonment issues, thinking "maybe I was wrong for thinking my dad didn't love me because I wasn't good enough, maybe he just answered the call of his masculine instinct!" so it feels good to think that giving up on their family is the only right path, and that the lack of love they've suffered throughout their childhood wasn't their fault, and that he shouldn't be guilty about abandoning his kids because "they, too, will understand" and the cycle continues, until a man with a strong enough will and character finally breaks it.
Sickening. I saw another Swedish one who abandoned his famly to be a "shaman" in peru aka a drug resort owner for priviledged westerners, because he was "depressed"... boo fcking hoo. And Swedish men who I know were very understanding that he abandoned his children.
They love to brag about being the most gender-equal country to justify being cheap on dates and look at how they act in reality.
They dont truly want to be euqals in a family, they are just insecure and non-confrontational so they cave to social pressure while crumbling on the inside.
And this is why I feel no sorrow for the male lonelines crisis or when these me complain about being left alone at the hospital to die. They do not deserve the love and support they get from their families. They reap what they sow. You're an absent father? Your kids won't visit you when you're older. It doesn't take a fucking genius to get that.