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I've posted before about how scrotes will use Google to diagnosis themselves with a condition and then use it as an excuse for their lousy behavior. But I've also had lvm go so far as to accuse me of having a disorder or condition and then use it to try to manipulate me.
Story Time: before FDS, I drove myself up to this restaurant which was located in one of those strip malls. It had a walmart attached. The dude texted me while I was driving saying that he made a reservation for about 45 minutes after I was supposed to arrive. So I got there and he texted me saying that we should meetup at the Walmart first and kill time there. Being foolish, I agreed. Well he was dressed in sweatpants, some fugly tee shirt, and a hoodie. He was much shorter and cubbies than his photos and I was too polite to just leave. But his personality was so painfully awkward and he was so lewd that he made me uncomfortable. He couldn't carry a conversation, kept ogling me, and was trying to sexualize everything. Finally we had gotten to the restaurant and towards the end he then accused me of being awkward, ogling, not making eye contact, and not keeping a conversation and the very rudely said "you must have severe autism and I'm not sure how to talk to someone like that." He had projected all of his behaviors onto me and this was his attempt to neg me as we waited for the check. He had also been the one disgustingly eating the mozzarella sticks in a sexual way and not understanding any social cues or manners. I should have nor shown up at all, but thankfully he was a lesson.
There was another time when I was still a pickme where my boyfriend of three years didn't do anything for me on Valentines Day. He had done things the previous years and I was very upset and sulking. I tried to "commicate" why I was so hurt and no surprise it didn't work. He accused me of "punishing him" and then got nasty. I started crying and telling him how lousy he had been to me the past week and how he doesn't listen to me at all - I was snapping. He then looked at me and coldly said "you're crazy, you're bipolar! This is exactly it, you're just having an episode! My ex was bipolar you're just like her."
And lastly there was a time that I had a bad first date. The dude was a little awkward, the conversations were boring, and I didn't feel any chemistry. When the bill came, he started complaining to me and gasping at how "expensive" the bill was at the restaurant he picked. (It was $75 for an appetizer, 2 sodas, 2 entrees, and a small dessert. That's actually cheap)
He paid but then was trying to get me to linger around longer and go for a walk around the area. I said no and he kept trying to kiss me and then he accused me of "having anxiety" when I declined the walk and kept pulling away from his as we walked out the restaurant. I safely got to my car and left. He texted me then saying that "I really like you but I'm not used to dating a girl with anxiety that bad, we need to get you more comfortable, maybe we can go out again". To which I blocked.
When I had an ex that was so bad in bed and so bad at foreplay (I didn't like him fingering me) he accused me of being autistic and said that I must have a sensitivity issue because "all his exes loved it and would finish". On the flip side, I had a man that was good in bed and when I moaned a little he told me I was so loud and tried making me feel abnormal for actually enjoying myself. He basically then hinted that I had something wrong with me.
Anyways, scotes are hitting all time lows and are now negging and weaponizing mental health and conditions. I've been to plenty of doctors and therapists and have never had a diagnosis for anything. It's incredibly disgusting not only to be accused of something- but the way they all did it was dehumanizing as they spoke to me like a defective good or like a child.
On the flipside I did have an ex who was diagnosed with ADHD and his parents would always coddle him. He grew up to be a man child and they'd always be blaming everything on his adhd. He learned to use it as an excuse and became a lvm who wanted me to fill out his job applications, cook, clean, and pay bills for him. He wouldn't take his medication and stopped seeing his doctor. He had violent, rage filled outbursts, negged me, and constantly blamed me for everything. When confronted as to why I was blamed for him not having a clean work uniform - he'd then scuffle back to "it's my adhd".
So please beware of men like this. Autism and other dianosises are nothing to be ashamed of - don't let anyone accuse you or belittle you for it. Just beware of scrotes who use it as an excuse and a crutch. Reminder that if a man is diagnosed you are not his therapist, mother, maid, or sex doll. He needs to manage his symptoms which will include seeing his doctors/therapists and keeping up with an rx. And if he does have problems and isn't managing them or showing scrote behavior it doesn't matter if it's from the condition or not - abuse is abuse. Violence is violence. A temper is dangerous. Negging hurts. And you need to run.
There’s a post from a day or two ago about how the mainstreaming of therapy terminology is ruining dating. Accurate.
The main pattern of men in my life has been treating me so badly that I snap in anger or cry hysterically and then call me crazy, mentally ill, or “emotionally manipulative“ while denying any blame or connection to my reaction. Like they all took a secret class on gaslighting and DARVO techniques. They can all go f*ck themselves.
Remember that not so long ago “hysteria” was an official diagnosis, typically applied to women who had been sexually abused as children (by men, of course), and had a very normal trauma response to any situations that had a whiff of potential further assaults.
Or BPD, they love to label women as the crazy ones and gaslight/invalidate our experiences.
Men always use their 'muh mental health' conditions to justify disrespect and abuse. They'll claim ADHD, autism, whatever fits their agenda and let you know in the beginning so they can use that as a Get out of jail free card anytime they mistreat you. I don't give af about your mental health scrotes, work on it or leave me alone! Most times it's covert narcissists who claims this in the beginning so you overlook the fact they're a narcissist and instead focus on their other comorbid conditions like bipolar, ADHD etc when the most dangerous condition they actually have is the fact that they're a demon in a human skinsuit (narcissist/sociopath) out to intentionally harm you and destroy your life. I believe like 90% of men are covert or overt narcissists AKA demons (since the condition NPD and ASPD is more prevalent in men than women). Women usually have BPD or Complex PTSD (CPTSD) which is caused by narcissist men abusing them in their past, which is bad too but I've heard they have a smudgen of empathy compared to narcs and sociopaths who have zero empathy or conscience. I know personally I suffer from CPTSD and got diagnosed 5 years ago after a malignant narcissist literally destroyed my life in less than a year. It's a daily battle and its ruined my ability to function most day. They should be locked up in psych wards where they belong because they're so dangerous to women and children and have to pay for our therapy for life. Narcissists still try to intentionally toy with me knowing I have CPTSD, they like to poke and poke at women's mental illnesses until we snap and then we're the ones that wind up in jail because of their provocations and abuse then of course they turn around and play the victim.
Any man who tries to force his mental problems onto you as an obligation, especially way too soon, is asking for way too much. Run
And any dude who diagnoses you with something because you didn't give him what he wanted, or because you responded exactly how he wanted you to, is insane. Run. Lol. Both are two sides of the same coin. The "victim" and "Mr. Sensitive" type of abuser who like to use therapy language to further abuse and manipulate.
Scrotes love to medicalize everything that doesn't fit their idea of women are "supposed" to behave and feel. Throwback to two of my exes who said I must be asexual and see a therapist for sexual dysfunction, because God forbid their behavior was driving my libido down, noooo. Lol. Other popular diagnoses are bipolar and borderline. My cousin who knows a lot about psychology (but is sadly a scrote) LOVES to diagnose every woman he meets. He had a situationship with a woman who was quite toxic, and then instead of writing her off as a bad partner, he was convinced she had schizophrenia and treated her like a research specimen. I somehow managed to talk him out of it, but yeah...
That is so offensive to people who actually have those things.
As a woman who insists on direct communication (especially from men), I'm often accused of being autistic or having social anxiety. People just can't fathom a woman who wants to communicate like an adult. Indirect communication has no benefits whatsoever to good, kind people. It just makes it easier for manipulative people to evade accountability because "I never said that" (even though they hinted at it 10 times).