Husband wants divorce after my cancer diagnosis
There was also an AITA post where a guy abandons his wife at the hospital and wants to divorce her because she got cancer and thus could no longer have children. Though it looks like she dodged a bullet since he seems to have always saw her as a broodmare:
AITA for walking out of the hospital after hearing my wife’s diagnosis?
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Brother in law divorced his wife while she underwent stage 4 cancer treatment.
The sad thing is that these things aren't uncommon. Alot of men see women as fuckmaids and will toss them aside when they sick.
This is brutal. Marriage has got to be one of the biggest scams that was sold to Women. It was meant to benefit Men not Women. You legit gain nothing.
When I was doing nursing studies, we were advised during our oncology rotation that this is so common they have support groups for women who have cancer and who've been abandoned by their partners for it. This was not the first I had heard of this. I remember a patient whose boyfriend brought his new girlfriend to meet her when he knew she'd never leave the hospital again.
My own father left my mother after she survived a long battle with cervical cancer. She said due to the nature of her cancer, he expressed disdain that he'd not be able to use her body for gratification due to her treatments and subsequent trauma. He bitterly remained (for the kids) until we pleaded with our mother to kick him out while we weren't yet teens.
People made all kinds of excuses about how it was hard for him and he didn't connect with his partner or children because he was afraid to lose them. Poor him... nevermind the woman with actual cancer realizing her man is emotionally inept and she will be raising children alone; with or without him. My mother is no saint. She's a pathological pick me with a lot of trauma and narc tendencies. But I still don't think she deserved that, and his actions may very well have contributed to and compounded her traumas and resentment towards her children. Even if she didn't want to raise children alone, she was still stuck with us and a man that she knew didn't truly care about her.
So even if he does not dump a woman at the first appointment, or after a biopsy, or after remission, there could still be a long drawn out resentful "relationship" before the breakup. They blame women for getting sick and 'ruining their lives' and feel absolutely no remorse when they move on at their convenience.
Thanks for the warning.
My dad was diagnosed with (and survived) cancer in recent years. My mom took care of everything around the house seamlessly and cheered him on during the worst of his illness. I think of her behavior as a reward for him being the willing breadwinner of their marriage for the past 35-plus years. He never put her through the 50/50 bullshit that most younger men expect nowadays.
While my dad would never divorce my mom over a cancer diagnosis, he would/could not provide the level of emotional care my mom provided him. Most men just aren't capable in that way.