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I'm so sick of whenever I'm trying to troubleshoot an issue and the man who's supposed to be helping me wastes a bunch of my time by automatically presuming incompetence.
For example:
Me: My car won't start, I think there's something wrong with the starter.
Him: Hmmmm, did you put the keys into the ignition?
Me: Yeah... that's how I found out it wasn't turning on. I think it's the sta--
Him: What about the gas? Are you sure you didn't forget to fill up?
Me: I'm sure. So anyway the starter--
Him: And your car, it isn't underwater, right?
Rather than looking into what I originally stated the problem, I have to waste a bunch of time and energy proving a bunch of other BASIC steps aren't what's causing the issue (literally, "is your computer on" level "troubleshooting")
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My male coworkers do this exactly! I call it fake help. They talk to you like an idiot, give you worthless advice only an idiot would need and that they know you do not need, and never offer actual knowledge or solutions. Then at the end they have plausible deniability and can claim they "tried to help." My ass.
Do they think we don't notice when they do this? Because we notice. I think it's extremely passive aggressive, weak, cowardly, and a good way for someone to out themselves as your enemy.
This happens to me too. The constant interrupting when you’re trying to explain something is exasperating. Sometimes I stop them and say “I wasn’t finished” and go on with what I was saying, only for them to ignore it and return to what they were saying previously. I need to be more cognizant of this inevitability with men, and try to patronize women-owned businesses whenever possible.
And then it’s so refreshing when someone treats you like an actual smart human being. The other day my car started to make some weird sounds on my way to work and I discussed it with my male coworkers immediately after I got to the office safely and there were no snarky remarks of backhandedly calling me an idiot. They were genuinly asking for specifics, trying to find possible reasons and then later followed up after I got it repaired, because they wanted me to be safe.
I wanted to make a separate post regarding auto repairs. I promise you cars are not that hard. Youtube is your friend. Invest in a good Impact Driver, wrenches, and other tools. Add them as you need to with each repair. A good impact driver will make taking the tires off your car so much easier. They can break lose bolts off of cars very easy. 90% of auto repairs is unbolting a thing, and bolting a new thing on. Get on youtube and search your make/model/year and the part you need to replace. It's not that intimidating.
It will save you a lot of money as well. Recently a shop quoted me a repair for 4 hours of labor. Because I knew better, I went home and did the repair myself in about 30 minutes. $600 saved in repair costs....
So, at my current job, I was hired in as a Level III Deskside IT Support Specialist. I am top dog in the department. I have the skills, experience, knowledge. I work special projects and escalation tickets everyone else below me can't resolve.
The Level II Deskside techs, male, had the audacity to try and tell me how to resolve the tickets I was getting. All their suggestions were wrong. They would do this by inputting notes in the tickets telling me what to do. None of it was ever right...lol. They're so bad at their jobs. They are only there because of the fallacy that men are better at tech and troubleshooting. Women like me have had trouble getting IT jobs because of this fallacy.
Also, it's my job to grade them on their jobs via reviews of their tickets. They aren't doing so well and some are nearing termination.