On today’s episode of “Reddit Hates and Gaslights Women”

It's weird that someone would be sitting and telling their gf/bf what they find attractive in the first place. The answer should be them.

I remember talking about this on FDS Reddit but essentially, men operate on a scarcity level and purposefully go out of their way to date people they are only minimally or barely attracted to (even outright disgust in some severe cases) because they strongly believe that there's really no other women out there that he perceives as way up the food chain who would want him. And he's right, of course, but not because he's "such a nice guy", but because he's a fucking asshole deep down. But anyway.

I think this is why we should ask men what their exes looked like, or what their previous crushes look like, to get a feel for their type. Yeah, scratch that, don't ask about exes, but definitely ask about crushes, especially the ones that he never got to date. THOSE are who he wants, deep down.

Let me guess… their advice is “just communicate” 😂😂

That's so insulting, geez. If I was dating a guy who only filled some of my preferences, I'm not going to tell him about the ones he doesn't fill. It's basic respect?? I bet this is some type of subtle neg. Like, 'You're not even my type so be grateful I picked you' or something. She should tell him that if he likes those women so much, he should try to date them. And then block and delete. I'm convinced that scrotes look for women to date that they're not attracted to on purpose - just so that they can dehumanise them and treat them badly. If they don't see you as a person in the first place, I guess they don't need to respect you.

one relationship I didn’t know until about 3 years in that I wasn’t his type at all. Everything he described about his type was opposite of me down to body type and hair color. Also found out he really hates people of my race and looks down on us

another couple ones they had claimed to not have a type but they would cheat with and/or end up with a certain type over and over again.

is it weird that I don’t want to date a guy who says he “doesn’t have a type” now? I have an ideal type and so I have a very hard time believing anyone doesn’t have an ideal way they would want their partner to look.

i dunno, I wonder how a scrote treats his dream woman. i doubt he would suddenly stop being a scrote but I do wonder how that plays out.

Whenever you have an “honest” conversation with a guy like this, and he explains how you’re not his ideal type, you should be ready to go into great detail, ad nauseum about how you like the exact opposite of him. Get really into it and even have pictures or point out in public the gorgeous man who’s the exact opposite of what he is. When he gets upset, just say innocently, “But I thought we were being honest with each other and that this little talk would bring us closer together.” He’ll shut up after that. Men need sexual competition to commit, and a guy who’s confident enough to to tell you he doesn’t like you in a veiled way doesn’t feel enough sexual competition from other men to respect you. Remember, men do not love. They can only respect, and when a guy puts you down in any way, he’s lost that respect for you. You cannot talk to him about respect. You have to SHOW him thru your actions. And how I’d show him in this situation is I’d be making a big deal about men who look nothing like him.

what sub was this? and it’s important for us black women to vet.

Could be just triangulation instead where LVM pit women of difference races against each other.

My ex was like that. He always made me feel loved until I learned that I wasn’t his ideal body type. He told me that if I had a bigger butt, he wouldn’t have watched porn and that he would be more attracted to me. It’s such a mess up thing to do to someone.

I’ve had to get off Reddit especially the relationship advice subs. I’m sure people would come for me because majority of my answers would be to dump them but it started to piss me off how little respect women had for themselves and how they’re constantly being told to stick it out or communicate and other bs. One thing I’ve learned is that once someone is his type and shows interest, it rarely ends up well for the woman who isn’t his type.