Never forget that men will push/test your limits as far as you allow them

This is why you should never "agree" to give a scrote a "chance" who you had previously said no to.

SIDENOTE: This doesn't nessicarily refer to you having initially waited to see if he was HV and then this giving him a chance but I mean giving a chance just..... CUZ WHY THE FUCK NOT.

Why the fuck not?? A few reasons, actually:

A. He will never forgive you for having initially turned him down

B. You literally just (indirectly) told him that your "NO" doesn't actually mean NO. This will set the tone for the rest of whatever shitty relationship that may arise.

My story (of my first and thus only so far BF):

I initually met this scrote a few years back at a party when i was tripping on molly (the first and one of the only times), and I thought he was so handsome and cute and we exchanged contacts. We had mutual friends so i saw him a few times around and realized that he wasn't that great, i had only thought so due to the molly. We had been chatting a lot on insta but when i saw him in person, i told him i wasnt feeling it and very kindly (and politely) asked him to fuck off. I don't remember how it went down but basically was like "Noooo, come on", and I said "ugh fine okay", and we got together before I ghosted him like 7 months later and have been happily scrote-free since. I don't and barely ever did drugs, but that night i was also tripping on X which made him seem like a dream rather than the death-gripping, Lubriderm-worshipping, porn-sick, 50-50, mommy's boy, LV, POS, FOB etc. that he actually is.

I was so under his spell that looking back, he had ADMITTED TO ME that he had legit raped someone (didn't word it like that obviously), but i kept assuming i must've misunderstood something. I fucking did not. But he was a spanish-scrote whose english was SHIT so I always chalked up any/all "misunderstandings" to the language barrier rather than the simple fact that he among MUCH else is just a rapist- LV scrote. I was/still technically am a virgin and intend to stay such until marriage (to protect myself from exactly scrotes like HIM/ It (I say "it" because it's geninuely so hard for me to fathom that these scrotes are even human. He kept pushing for sex so much even after i "set" my "boundary" and literally begged him to please fuck off if that was what he was interested in. He claimed it wasn't. But it was and the cycle kept repeating. Again, i kept chalking it up to a

(?language?) misunderstanding when he was pressuring the fuck out of me and then gaslighting me about it. Why did he continue? Because I had already made it clear to him that my "NO" didn't actually mean "NO!". After all, I had agreed to "give him a chance" when i initially said no, so why would sex be any different?

Eventually i agreed to sex but luckily for me, we literally couldn't because he was pornsick and his cock couldn't even get or stay hard (and of course he blamed ME for that (not "opening enough" etc.). Yet he still calls me from random numbers 2 years later. LMFAO.

There were a lot of other instances that he gave no fucks about my feelings or boundaries becase clearly i didn't give a fuck about my OWN from the get-go.

He also just assumed i was cool with "anal" and i found this out when he attempted to "slip it in" my ass during a clothed massage.

MY only saving grace from being raped by that scrote is that his cock was/is broken.

Another notable example of something fishy (no pun intended) that i chose to ignore was when we were at his house "chilling" (because SURPRISE- that was his idea of a "date" LMFAO), he was going to order food on uber eats. He asked what I wanted, and i said i really wanted sushi/miso soup/tempura. He began arguing with me ("playfully!!") and saying that he was going to order something else. I then got kinda annoyed because i really wanted sushi and he literally asked ME what i wanted, then was trying to disregard my WISHES??? It might sound petty but i got so annoyed to the point that was legit about to leave, get my own sushi and then block/delete him forever. It wasn't until i literally got up to leave- he immediately ordered sushi for me. I wasn't sure if he had been "joking" and was going to order it all along but looking back, it was definitely another shit-test.

There are so many other times looking back that i was so confused by how shitty i was treated but it was 100% my own fault from the get-go. Not for being treated that way but allowing the opportunity/access to me by a scrote. I am so lucky that as intense as it was being my first relationship, it only took me 7 months to GHOST/ BLOCK AND DELETE, and I thank FDS a lot for helping me know what to do. It's literally insane how some women stay for YEARS with these types of fuckery fools-failures in life, and not realized the role they played in faciliating their shitty treatment (by allowing access to themselves in the first place/not leaving at the first sign of disrespect.

So my point is- ignore scrotes/men entirely until and unless you have ongoing PROOF he is HV, and WALK THE FUCK AWAY ASAP at the first sign of disrespect or violation of your boundaries (like i should've after the sushi incident). It will never get better and scrotes RELY on you not knowing/internalizing this.