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This is a post dedicated to FDS once again proving that every little suspicious feeling is the sign to distance yourself from a man (or whoever). I didn't realize this through a relationship with a man though.
After I realized the complete bullsh*t that we teach girls and how we are sent out to the world in the most disadvantaged way possible, I couldn't bare interacting with men. I hated being around them, talking to them or even worse, actually trusting them. Because this state was stressing me out a bunch I used to listen to/watch asmr videos where guys roleplay as your friends or boyfriends. In many ways it was very helpful. I kept in mind to always remind myself of the dangers of trusting men and it worked really well.
It lead me to the very popular "boyfriend audios" which has a variety of content. Some very close to relaxing asmr videos other more nsfw. There are a lot of different creators I listened to and let me tell you it was such good practice to filter out red flags. Thanks to FDS, sometimes the tiniest sentence made me suspicious and I thought I have a huge feeling this guy is a total asshole irl or something about this just isn't quite right. Back in the day I would have thought I am overthinking something stupid but here I 100% trusted my gut. Same thing with creators who I really trusted and got a good feeling from. Turns out, every single guy that would post more "rough" audios or not even that, just everything other than sweet and caring turned out to be, racist, homophobic, fatphobic or just straight up dangerous.
It was sad to see people like these have such a huge following, especially when the signs are all there but we have been so blinded that we believe a guy being or even pretending to be rough or kinky or angry is anything else but terrible.
i now decided to stay away from this content altogether and just watch regular asmr (I generally dont feel its that healthy to imagine a fake relationship with the persona of a content creator anyways and everybody who tries to profit off of sex and fake the intimacy around it is bad to me). But I found this so interesting and I was curious whether anyone else here had listened to this type of content and what your opinion might be. Its difficult to pick this stuff apart on other plattforms because a lot people still dont see the light.
Anyways, stay reminded that FDS is right to be harsh and we all should do the same <3
I think it is desperate listening to men doing ASMR by being your boyfriend. It sounds like a very bad alternative to porn and you don’t even cum, you just hear some creep whispering in your ear 😂 I think you should do some inner work about why you want a boyfriend
Boyfriend audios? I didn't know there was such a thing, haha.
Fatphobia is just a more specific misogyny. Hate that word. Fat women are treated with disdain because of misogyny, no need for new words that make it a special class.
I like your strategy of interacting with men in a way that helps you feel
safe. I 100% support women doing what it takes to learn, grow and feel safe. I also like how you practiced finding red flags and listening to your gut.
Society pushes women so hard to ignore their intuition and to stay in unsafe situations. I applaud you for taking the steps needed to gain confidence and trust in yourself. ❤️ hugs.