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The overwhelming majority of men take, take, and keep on taking. They take our goodwill, kindness and competence for granted and abuse it. They give nothing in return and will rely on you in the same way that a child does.
On my way to meet a friend for brunch, I was feeling a bit sad thinking about how I must somehow be a freak for being single my age (45), and how it would be nice to have a partner. I was stopped at traffic lights and was observing, from inside my car, a young couple waiting to cross the intersection. The woman was pushing a pram and holding a bag or two. The dude was holding nothing. Who do you think took the initiative to press the pedestrian button? Seeing this quickly snapped me out of my woe-is-me-for-being-single funk. How useless is a man when he can’t even press the pedestrian button for himself and his already-burdened partner? He’s less than useless – he’s a liability. That woman is effectively looking after two children – an infant and a grown-ass man who sucks the energy from her and effectively forces her to do everything.
I am similarly disturbed when I see women mowing lawns, something I see often in my neighbourhood. In fact, I've noticed over the last few years more women mowing lawns than men doing it. When I was a child, women didn't mow lawns – it was something men did. Now we apparently have EKWALITY, which means women have to do things men used to do. I wager that the male partners of the women mowing the lawns are not inside doing the laundry, or the vacuuming. Those jobs are waiting for the women when they finish mowing the lawn.
This is why settling only for a man with a provider mindset is so important. It’s not about the money (although if you are young and you want kids, it is about this too), it’s about being with a man who will take care of things so you don’t have to. The alternative is a scrote who will suck you dry. The alternative is a scrote who is incapable of the most basic task of pushing a pedestrian button to cross the road, forcing you to do it, while you hold the baby and the shopping at the same time.
I agree, I just saw a video about Jamie Fox crawling back on his knee caps to Katie Holmes saying if she takes him back it would be a dream come true. Lol.. I enjoy seeing the red pil bubble pop and see their suprised Pickachu faces when the delusional world that men always have options shatters infront of them. He didn't consider taking her back when he was using her and then dumped her years ago. Absolutely disgusting.
Stories like these shows men don't love women, they love what they can use and take away from us. I've seen so many men look down on house wives for staying at home not working living off a man's money but they target succesful women just to make a stay at home mom out of them.
This is why I will never compromise my desire to live apart no matter what, Even with a ring on my finger I want you away from my home. If I don't want to see a man I don't have to resentfully put up with them.
A woman I know in her 70s is married with 3 children.
She told me if she could have her time all over again, she would have stayed single, child free and taken a lover.
Funny how "equality" always means that women do additional stuff that was a man's job before because "women can do everything men can" but it's NEVER the other way around. If men are so great and so much better at everything, why don't they show us poor and dumb women how it's done?
This was years ago, but I still remember my first TRULY no value male. My mind was fancinated by the fact that I could not find one quality in him worth leaving the house for. HOW can this man have NOTHING?? No positives at all that I could see. He was starting to lose his hair. He was kinda broke so no fun there. No ambitions. No car to help me with groceries. "Back pain" so no lifting groceries either. He was getting a room mate, no privacy. He thought gold digger pranks were real, so no intelligence. He was obsessed with his ex, I told him to get therapy lol. He dressed like an idiot in sports jerseys. Pretty sure he hated women so no friend potential. From how he spoke he was 100% terrible at sex. No great conversation. He smelled like a hamper. His ex left him when he lost a good job and started following her around the house. He was angry she'd invent things for him to do. I was like, "Well, I don't want him either!" He is one of the reasons I quit OLD. It's a bunch of wanna be players but are really just hapless losers that wash out completely with age.
This is true. Most men will not be able to add value to your life. They're more likely to add problems to your life than anything.
48 and single. I am very lonely, but at the same time terrified to be used and abused again like I was with the last one. But I am getting so lonely, and touch starved. UGH
I am 33 and your post really resonates with me. I am pretty sure that I want children, but if I don’t find a man by 40 I really don’t see myself getting married. I would consider IVF in my late 30s and be a single mom by choice. However, if I marry a man after 40, depending on when I meet him (at 50, 60)… we would maybe enjoy a small time without health complications, if lucky? And then the rest of the time I would probably have to take care of him. I pride myself in taking great care of my body but I look around at men my age and my goodness they have let themselves go. So really, there is a very big possibility of not getting married, and your post validates my train of thought.