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Most men only see women as walking sex toys. We are just objects for them to use and abuse whether for sex, for domestic labor, emotional labor or for breeding their children. Most of them have little to no empathy and whatever empathy they have they sure as hell wouldn’t extend to us.
Marriage leaves most women drained, beyond stressed, tired, unloved, miserable but its ok because they ~have a man~ right?
You project your romantic fantasies which have been ingrained into you by patriarchal society just to keep yourself sane while staying with a loser man who can’t even be bothered to take you out on a proper dinner date yet expects you to act like a sex slave and maid all in one. He can’t even respect and see women as human beings let alone love you.
Princella on YouTube has great podcasts on this subject, proving that men are not capable of giving us love or caring for us without a hidden motive.
With this in mind, you can decenter men from your life and focus on yourself, leveling up in every aspect instead. Your education, your career, your hobbies will never betray you or leave you.
Next time you start catching feelings for a man, ask yourself: Is he capable of genuine empathy and kindness for women? Has he earned your time and affection by properly romantically courting you? How does he treat his mother, sister or the female cashier?
Relying on a man for love is pure self sobatage. Don’t catch yourself crying and pining over a man who doesn’t even give you a second thought. Sure, if a rare good man comes along and passes your vetting, enjoy the relationship. No matter what, ALWAYS prioritize yourself and realize men are never the prize, YOU ARE. You attract good, healthy and safe relations by loving on yourself first, by absolving your own insecurities first so that nobody can take advantage of you and your seemingly desperate need for love because you are already complete and fulfilled on your own.
Being UNbothered is sooo freeing. Try it sometime.
EDIT: I don’t care if some of you don‘t like to hear the truth about how the average man is predatory. You try pouring your precious energy into your life, self care and goals instead of mediocre, parasitic men then watch how life will give back to you tenfold unlike them.
It hurts to read, but it’s the truth. There’s a surplus of single available HVW on the dating market, but there is a severe deficit of HVM. Women ”have” to settle everyday for LVM who aren’t capable of love or respect for them because they’re brainwashed and don’t understand what a terrible deal they’re getting. Do most men have empathy? Sure, for themselves, for 4 legged beasts, and occasionally other men. If men had any empathy for women, they would see porn and be disgusted.
No, all men. If they can't love you in their younger years then their older years won't make much of a difference. All men are like that. and most men are garbage.
All men feel is fish love, they love sex, they love what you can do for them and what they can take. They would never "love" a woman who is completely useless to them. Yet we are expected to love a man for who he is. I will never love men again, they either prove their worth and I'll respect them or piss off.
I don't compromise if he can't make himself useful then I don't want him, just like he wouldn't want me if I can't meet his standards.
There are pickme's who claim that it's ok for men to have standards they can't meet themselves like a fat dude only wanting to date pretty girls who are in shape. As long he's nice with his rejections.
But men are never nice with their rejection, they rate you without even asking for it.
I empathize with these feelings, I really do, but I'm starting to feel like we're getting these "every man is a selfish monster" posts every two tweeks now. I get it, men are hugely disappointing. Yes, their deeply entrenched misogyny makes it nearly impossible to really respect and care for their female partners. And yet... This is no new revelation and I'm starting to question the value of rants like these. "You don't have to read them!!!" I really don't anymore since the contents are always the same. If it helps people to believe that men cannot love and never will, fine. I just believe there's better things to focus on.
So accurate 👏