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As I lay in bed I can't help but think what it would be like to be kissed by this stud muffin of a man- feeling his fluffy caterpillar of a moustache tickling my lips... running my fingers through the few strands of his combover. Psych! Late April Fools. I jest.
What I'm really thinking about is a particular moment when I wanted to say a particular thing, but didn't.
Back when my ex and I were together, he was whining about how bad his back pain was. And his father, in a very accusatory tone, said:
"Well, NotTheOne, as his wife you SHOULD be giving him back rubs".
This hit me like a ton of bricks, because I had tried many times, but he never let me for very long. Why? Because he'd get horny and would immediately switch over to having sex.
In that moment, Queens, I tell ya: I was thisclose to telling his father just that! "Well, FIL, I'd like to, but he always stops me and puts his penis in me. Any suggestions?"
This also made me think of something equally audacious- when nosy people ask why I'm not dating. It's so inappropriate, in a way, because in this day and age dating practically goes hand in hand with sex. So what they're really asking is essentially "why aren't you having sex with anyone?" And what if I was honest about it and said that part of the reason is I really don't like giving blow jobs? Or that most men are porn sick and the things they try to do disgust me? Or that I just haven't found anyone I want inside me just yet?
It never ceases to amaze me how people feel so comfortable telling women what to do, or that they feel entitled to such personal information.
BTW sorry for the troll, I just felt like having a little fun.
totally get what you mean. This is why I feel weird any time I have ever introduced a boyfriend to my family because I feel if you're not married, you're kinda just saying hey this is the person I'm currently having sex with.
I don't give blowjobs either. One man I dated last year, I really liked him, and then after some time like a few months in, I don't remember exactly how we got into the conversation but it lead to a sex conversation where I said I don't give bjs.
He didn't ask why so I didn't explain further, but conversation got stilted for the rest of dinner. Changed the subject but I know that was weighing on his mind the rest of the time.
At the end of our date I said "sorry that I'm not a cocksucker" and laughed, he sorta laughed uncomfortably too. He hasn't contacted again and neither have I. I think it was a great way to weed him out.
When my mother asks me why don't I have a man I just tell her they are mostly not good anymore. She has come around lately and is much more understanding of this after trying her own online dating in her 60's.
Not to hijack your post, but when they ask for sex and I say I have my period and they say "Oh, I don't mind!".
I'm really pleased you don't mind, but I sure as hell do. I've got enough coming out of me without something else going in.
Loved your troll. I couldn't believe what I was reading for a second and had to recheck if I was really on FDS 🤣
1) ppl that actually know me KNOW why I'm choosing not to date, so they don't inquire
2) for those who don't know me and ask what I consider to be a question laced with condescension, I cheerfully reply as such:
"Preference."
If they continue with a follow up question, I point out their stupidity like, "Oh, you don't understand the word 'preference'?. It means it is what I prefer".
Randos aren't entitled to any and every bit of information about me.
Most women have experienced sexual violence, rape, sexual coercion and sexual harassement since we were kids. Men manipulate, traffick, threaten women just for sex. Valorie solanas once said “I think males should be neutered or castrated so they can’t mess up any more women’s lives.”
I think it's crazy that men expect sex in a relationship. You're telling me they can't control it? That is scary.
Having access to his girlfriend's vag 24/7 is like heaven for men, but they lie and tell us sex is not a big deal and "I want you to be my girlfriend beause I " love" you. "
I agree with op. Blowjob is disgusting.
Getting into a relationship with men and having sex with men is literally the most dangerous thing a woman can do. .