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I've noticed something about men these days where they openly talk about how women with "daddy issues" are more desirable, or mentally unstable women on general. I had a conversation with a man today and he asked me "what are some of your intrusive thoughts."
I was taken aback and didn't really know how to respond. I told him, honestly, that I don't really experience thoughts like that... To which he laughed and made fun of me for being "mentally stable" and then ended the conversation. Ummm sorry for being healthy and of sound mind??
It's super disturbing. I imagine a lot of pickme women would pretend to be mentally unstable (whatever that may look like) just to appease men. In the same realm, I see a lot of memes/posts from men about wanting a "goth gf," "witchy woman," "a woman with red flags," etc...
I understand the importance of destigmatizing mental health issues, but let's not go around idealizing it 🙄
Edit: "Looking for a woman who will ruin my life" = Man who is mentally unstable himself
Yikes, a man who is out there asking strangers about their intrusive thoughts is not a man who can be trusted with that information.
Many, many women have mental illnesses, and can still have healthy relationships.
Let’s also not confuse ‘daddy issues’ with anything but what they are - trauma caused by men in the formative early years of a woman’s life, which still affect her today and inform her view on men and relationships.
I suspect that men who are seeking women with so-called ‘daddy issues’ are doing so because they think those women will have low expectations for them and will be easy to manipulate.
Unfortunately, men exoticizing goth women is nothing new. It's gross. Like, yeah, goth stuff is cool, but once you get to a certain age you really want to look for a partner based on personality and shared values, not how they look in fishnets. Lot of pornsickness I think too, as goth culture borrows a lot of its look from BDSM culture. I say this as someone who dabbles in gothiness from time to time. Goth fetishizers are weird. I feel like the younger generation is a lot more open about mental health issues than they were back in my day or back in my parents' day. Which is good because it allows people to get help! But it also means abusers can get really good at finding new targets since everyone with a diagnosis is out there being "radically vulnerable" and whatnot. Keep your personal problems under wraps until you know someone can be trusted!
Abusive men often seek out women with mental health issues because these women are more vulnerable. Also if these women try to speak out about the man's abuse, they're unlikely to be believed because of said mental health issues.
I would have blocked him right there when he asked “ what are your intrusive thoughts ”💭 what a loser
This is the majority of men. They know women are superior to them, so they purposely look for a woman they can either fake-rescue or dominate. It’s all about tickling their ego-peen.
Pathetic.
Never NEVER tell a man your problems. And run from any man who asks.
I met a potential buyer a few months ago to discuss my client (I sell companies). He was very pushy and asked about my dating life. I told him I’m not in a relationship - and why are we talking about this anyway?? (he’s middle eastern so I chalked up the awkwardness to lack of cultural savvy). He immediately jumped into “OH! So you’ve been traumatized by men?! So you’re avoiding them?!”
No jackass. I’m just not in the mood, and your bullshit isn’t helping.
Got away from him fast.
Men like this are dangerous wolves: on the prowl for their next victim. The minute you share anything vulnerable, they’ll move in for the kill. Run.