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It's not nearly as bad as most things that get posted here, but it still left me feeling uncomfortable.
I have a really close male friend from uni, we went to lunch together to socialize a bit before Christmas break since I'm gonna spend it in another city. We're completely platonic, he has some FDS leaning opinions and I really enjoy his company.
A man came by our table to ask for directions (only asked him), then asked him if I'm a friend or a girlfriend. After he told him we're just friends, the man replied to "think about it, she's very pretty", like I wasn't even there, making both of us very uncomfortable. Thankfully it was a very short interaction, but it still gave me the ick.
I’m assertive to aggressive and I own it. I’ve said, “You can speak directly to me. I’m right here.” But the point is, as always, a power move. It’s objectification to talk about you rather than to you. Major, major ick.
Even worse, he probably expected you to be flattered 🙄
Like it was his choice to make and not yours 🤢
They really can't see us as human beings, can they?
So stupid
"making both of us very uncomfortable" Why was HE uncomfortable while YOU were the one being disrespected? He should have, clearly and loudly, spoken up for you, and not let this other scrote get away with thinking he shared a little scrotey cameraderie moment with him. Instead he froze up. I'm getting coward softboy vibes from your friend. Or maybe he was agreeing with the other guy internally?
Had a similar interaction with a cashier yesterday pointing at me and asking my brother questions about me even though I was right there. It's such a mindfuck lol and I was just frozen like I couldn't say anything
Wow, like you're just there for the taking :') definitely a power move!