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This happens a lot during certain parts of the year but I went to the gym today and this dude was walking really slow, then as I got to the door he walked really fast and tried getting in the way. There's two doors, I just walk across and open the right door as he opens the left door and he's like "wow okay". I proceeded to hold the next door open for him and he didn't say anything.
I'm like
-i didn't ask for an old man to open a door for me.
-you got in my way deliberately just force us to interact with eachother.
-you took too long to even get to the door and open it?
-i literally had opening this door planned out in my mind and I was ready to do it.
-I come to this gym every single day, hopped up on pre-workout. Ready to rumble. I'm not your mommy and I'm not going to smile and mindlessly walk into your weird door traps, just be normal please lmao.
-it would've been fine if he thought it was weird but like I don't need the sarcastic remarks lol , I'm not speeding up to doors for people , women don't do that to me because they see me as a person and not "a chance".
I will literally offset my time of entering a building, use my phone pretending to look at something just to avoid the men here because they make a show out of a thing I can very clearly do myself. They force it to happen when it didn't need to happen to begin with. Like call me crazy sure but I shouldn't be made to feel bad for trying to have a normal door opening session lol.
You have three dude door opening modes:
He genuinely just needs something and is entering a building without trying to generate labor for a woman, both people naturally end up at the door and naturally either person will open the door for whoevers last.
Goes out of his way to open a door for a woman just to force an interaction and maybe stare at her ass or to make her force a smile even though she's trying to listen to music and get into "gym mode".
Thinks "I'm not going to hold open a door for this trash" because I chose to wear sweatpants that day and my hairs tied back. Deliberately looking away and not holding the door for me because "I'm not cute enough today". Thinking he's proving a statement even though I have arms lol.
It sounds crazy and weird but I swear to God if there's weird energy behind a door being opened, it's there, I promise you.
Side-note:
Also I'm sorry if I seem super aggressive and I don't reply to comments much, I get carried away easily online and my area is just littered with nvm despite economic status, I feel bad because a lot of you guys are straight and I know that my doomer energy can distill panic for straight women. I try to be productive here and I don't need interaction or approval but I don't want anyone to think I'm some tinfoil hat weirdo. Being bi and attractive in a nvm area is very stressful and it can lead to some radical ideas, even my family of 6 women of different ages has been going straight up 4B. I know FDS is about optimism and serious vetting and I'm just a man-hating goober. I never wanted to be this way and I just hope I don't make any queens uncomfortable with my radical statements, I'm not going to become less radical but I don't mean to invalidate straight women in my long angry comments about men.
Yep. Trust your gut darling. It tells you stuff for a reason.
I was born and raised in the south and here opening doors for people (ladies or otherwise, heck I hold doors for people too) is just common courtesy. Most of the time, I think nothing of it and a quick thanks/nod is all that ever comes of it. But .... that 10% of the time my gut is telling me there's more to it, like when that dude at 84 literally sprinted to get ahead of me and hold the door.
I don't consider myself a man-hating goober (I really don't hate them, I just prefer when they aren't around ... like mosquitoes) but all my circle considers me one. Take into account that society is SO USED to us breaking our backs for men that anything less is considered the depths of misandry. You keep doing you and let the haters go their own way.
Don't apologize. If we women are man haters, it's because MEN made us man haters.
At first I was thinking "OMG just say thank you." But after thinking about it yes you are absolutely right. With some guys there's always some weird angle. Like they aren't doing it to be polite or considerate they are doing it because they think it will benefit them someway. Case in point forcing an interaction with you and trying to get you to talk to them. Yuck 🤢. I always liked when the people I was dating held the door for me but I liked it because they did it for everyone. I definitely liked it if my dated rushed to get to the door first when it was someone they saw definitely needed extra help like mom with a stroller or elderly person with a walker because that's what I would do as well.
This post reminded me of my old job where my supervisor had a crush on me. We were all leaving and he ran up from behind me to try & open the door but I opened it first cause I was literally RIGHT THERE & he’s just standing there like🧍🏻♂️. 😭. I actually had a crush on him too but my interactions with males @ that job were just awkward. Them constantly staring @ me. One guy giving me a massage out of no where & giving me his number after. He would always offer to do my work for me & tell me to sit and relax 🤷🏿♀️. Some would try to flirt but i’m awkward so I would ignore them or say “okay 🫤”. I was 18 & 2 months outta high school, it was just too much. Anyways I work with mainly women now & i love it🥰
This guy thought he was a comedian. Maybe he even thought that was a good way to make you interested in him. He’s probably watching way too much alpha male content lmao