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Used to date a lot of divorced men, and let me tell you something - they are all liars.
Divorce settlements are public record. You can go online for a small fee check that MFers story. The amount of divorced men who were telling me the truth about their settlement was 0%.
They would give me their sob story, about how their wife cleaned them out, how they were paying alimony, how they were paying $5,000 a month in child support, how she took their 401k. They hoped that I was a stupid b*tch, and would believe everything I was told without question.
Always the shock of their life when I would come back and say, "Sir you told me that you were paying alimony. It says right here you're not paying any alimony. The courts are ordering you to pay back the money that you STOLE out of her business."
"Sir, You told me you were paying $5,000 a month in child support. It says right here you're only paying $200 a month in child support. Sir, you said that she took half your 401k. But right here it says that you took half of HER 401k."
The look of shock on their faces. The stammering, the back peddling. It was priceless. They never thought I would check.
One of them even stole from his own kids! He had taken all the money out of his children's college trust fund left to them by their grandparents, and used it to buy a luxury boat and abscond his girlfriend, who had no idea he was already married.
Think about all the benefits divorced men get from lying. They get sympathy & attention. Their male friends pay for their drinks & meals, their male friends pay for their sports games & concert tickets. "Don't worry bro, I got you."
He has a handy excuse for why he can't spend much money on your dates, and can rope you in as an ally against his "Greedy ex wife."
The benefits of them lying are huge. Divorced men have no motivation to tell you the truth.
There is something called "Reckless dissipation of marital assets." Right before a divorce, the man often got caught cheating, blowing the families joint savings on his mistress, gambling in Vegas with hookers or draining the joint credit cards on Onlyfans.
It's not legal for him to do that. When the man gets caught, the judge will make him pay back that money. When a man claims to be "divorce raped," look for the words "reckless dissipation of marital assets," in the paperwork. He wasn't 'divorce raped,' he's paying back the money he stole.
One mention of a 'toxic divorce' or a 'toxic ex' or a 'divorce from hell' and I'm out of there. It's a massive red flag. It's ghastly how unaware men are that they don't realise how horrible they sound when they start badmouthing their ex-wife.
You make an excellent point about men being thieves. We don't talk enough about this as a society - men literally steal from women all the time and yet we're the ones disparaged for being gold-diggers or of leeching off men because we might take a break out of the workforce to bear his kids. 😡
Single dads are usually evil, and remarried single dads are smart about hiding it. I ALWAYS ask "What did you do to your wife to make her leave her own fucking kids?" And they still try to excuse themselves.
“Brad, you said that you are currently paying $5,000/month to your ex-wife in alimony….court records determined that was a lie.”
I can’t help but wonder what my own scrotey ex husband is saying !!!!!
Men have absolutely no problems perpetuated by women so they need to live in their own fantasy land and make them up to justify how much they hate us.
When I broke up with the father of my daughter, we didn't go to court I but went ahead and filed for child support.
he complained publicly on Facebook and whatever else about how I was using her to get money from him. I even had old work colleagues who he knew contacting me to ask how I can be so evil.
He was hiding most of his income under the table and not even paying the small amount they told him to pay. I'm talking about a couple hundred dollars a month and he was so angry about it. It was barely covering diapers at the time. Covers a week of groceries now, when he does keep up with it.
She still complains to this day about how my apartment is smaller than the whole house he lives in, there's less toys here.
The complaints she has have gotten much less frequent because I've tried to make up for it in other ways, but he will always be the one who is the more fun parent because he is less stressed out and has a whole army of woman family members and especially his girlfriend who take care of my daughter for him when it's his time to have her. He never takes her to school, she always does. It's a bit uncomfortable because he sends her to the family things like conferences. I assume the school thinks that we are a lesbian couple at this point.
Daddy will always be more fun for her because he has that freedom of time and family who can finance him and take on parent duties; I don't. He never knows shit about what is going on with her. His girlfriend basically raises my daughter when she is in his care, and she has been his forever girlfriend for like 6 years now.
How do we look it up in this level of detail? I've been able to check the county Clerk of Courts for free and see that a man is divorced but I didn't know you could find all these details.
This is super interesting!! It's one thing taking the woman's money. It's another thing lying about how she took yours. Disgusting.
I need this to be a Maury-esque style show yesterday!
Reckless dissipation of marital* assets for those who are looking for the exact terminology.