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I was recently interviewed online by the owner of a start-up. The owner is a guy and from the beginning of the interview, I had a gut feeling that he would be inappropriate. The role I applied for is remote so fortunately, I would work from home if I was hired but yet he asked me where I live. I was very vague with my response and even though employers may ask you where you reside, to know where you and other potential hires are located, I just felt that he wanted to know for his own personal reasons.
What topped it off was after the interview, he started saying my first name and last name over and over; like he was getting a sense of how my name sounded. It reminded me of how guys I've met in the past, act when they're trying to flirt with you. For example, a guy says goodbye to you by saying: "Goodbye Miss Julie Jones". The way the guys says your name; his tone, facial expression and body language will let you know that he's flirting with you.
In my case, this guy asked me to put on my camera while his was turned off so I couldn't see his face but his tone when he was saying my name was that of interest; like he liked the sound of my name. He then proceeded to ask me if it's my husband's name or father's name. I was so irritated and wanted to respond by asking him why he needed to know that but I said it was my maiden name, with my tone showing that I was hesitant to answer.
Some days after the interview, he sent me an email saying that I got the job and gave me more information about the position. I turned down the job and he wrote back asking why I had decided to not go with the offer. I've just replied him after thinking about whether I wanted to reply or not and said that I found it inappropriate and unprofessional to ask me about my martial status because 1) it's personal, 2) it has nothing to do with the job and 3) a male candidate would never be asked about his marital status.
I'll wait to see if he replies or not.
This is more of a rant about how no matter where you are or the scenario women find themselves in, men never fail in wanting to be inappropriate and cross boundaries.
What does everyone think? Have you had your own experiences with inappropriate, boundary-crossing men in professional settings? I'd like to read about others' experiences and get your view on what I experienced.
I don't have any experience with remote work so maybe I'm wrong for thinking this- but that's so weird he asked for you to have your camera on while his camera was off. That power dynamic puts a bad taste in my mouth.
Pretty sure it’s illegal to ask marital status in an interview
Mad respect for every woman that dares to speak up against scrote audacity!
OP, where did you find his job? I remember I applied for jobs on a website similar to Indeed. I can't remember the name of it. But there was the guy on there who kept calling me and leaving me voice mails about an important task, he had for me but wouldn't tell me... 1. What the task was🚩 2. The positions I applied for🚩 3. The name of the company🚩 He was super vague! Then he had the nerve to text me🚩! Yes, he texted me...asking me to call him about the "important task" he had for me. I blocked his ass so fast! Something about him gave me the ick!
'no matter where you are or the scenario women find themselves in, men never fail in wanting to be inappropriate and cross boundaries.'
Yup just look at YouTube comments of women's long jump or almost any other sport, just a bunch of comments about the athletes looks/bodies. Men don't even realize how thirsty and pathetic they come off.
Crazy scrote alert 🚨
I used to work remotely and none of that happened. Granted, my interviewers were women 😂. Since I worked internationally, all they asked me was if I spoke their language so it would be easier to communicate. In addition, since it was international they let me know that I had to be willing to wake up at odd times in the night and also had to understand the different cultural expectations of my clients. Both our cameras were turned on. We could blur our backgrounds if we wanted. Both companies had a response deadline to see if I still wanted the gig.