Lessons in dating… leave at the first sign of shit you don’t like!

Ladies, I'm sharing an experience with you to remind you that the handbook is bang on about honouring your intuition and NOT giving men the benefit of the doubt.

I matched with a seriously good looking guy on an app. His opener was 'hi how are you' which I HATE and I generally delete anyone who sends me this dry AF opener. (Side note: platonic male friends tell me women are also guilty of this). But stupid me wanted to explore this seriously good looking guy seeing as everyone else within my radius looked like they were doing hard prison time. 🤣

Turned out we had a scary amount in common: from loving sport to our profession to where we're originally from. All of this I was able to verify online, of course. So within a couple of days in he asks for my number and suggests a coffee. (🚩) i retort by saying that's not my idea of a first date and that he could do better. He took it in good spirits and arranged to see me over the weekend.

Meanwhile I'm hearing from him regularly in the week (but not too regularly) and he's asking relevant questions etc. So far so good. Ultimately he leaves me a voice note saying how much he's looking forward to meeting me on the Saturday. A place and time is locked in. He knows I'm busy because I'm doing a weekend and evening course that, coincidentally, he has already done. He even sent me his assignment to get inspo!

By Friday I'm feeling a distinct gut feel that I'm not going to see him that weekend - but I can't pinpoint why. Nonetheless i had a message from him that evening wishing me a good drive etc so I leave it. He's also viewing my profile very frequently, like.. every few hours. I don't know why I found this weird but I just did. Orange flag pops in my head.

ANYWAY, roll on the day of our date and 2 FUCKING HOURS before we were due to meet, he sends me a pathetic message telling me he's been held up at a sporting event, hates bailing but do i have any availability the following day (Sunday). 🚩

I responded to mr seriously good looking saying:

'Oh. We won't be meeting tomorrow. Or at all. You can delete my number'.

I then blocked him on everything. 💪🏻💪🏻

What's weird is that I wasn't even surprised by his cheap trick. Sadly he's not the first person to bail on a planned first meeting - this is the third in a row! But he's so audacious that he thinks I'm going to be ok with having my prime weekend night messed up last minute and that I would be happy to rearrange for the following day despite a packed schedule. What staggering arrogance. Bastard! The good part is that I had a lovely 9 hour sleep that night instead so, every cloud. ☺️

So my takeaways:

• I should have discounted him at the first sign of his lazy opening line that was no doubt sent to tonnes of women

• The offer of a coffee told me everything I should have known about him. Lazy, cheap, unimaginative

• I had a spidey sense about him/not meeting him that I couldn't quite pinpoint. That sense came true

The handbook advises dipping at the first flicker of LVM behaviour. Doesn't matter about stuff in common (there was loads in this case) or how good looking they appear to be (he was seriously hot).

Sigh. I really hate these scrotes but weirdly feel free not having wasted my time in his company.

Stay woman x