At the gym I'd noticed a hot guy was regularly glancing at me (not in a weird way) but in a way that us ladies know they are interested. I hardly reciprocated or checked him out (often). One day I waited for the machine he was using with a friend and he offered it me, as I walked towards it he ran towards it and sat on it as a joke 🙄. Later on I was across from him on the cable machine. He come around and asked if he could take the rope attachment (that I wasn't using as I already had one!). I said no to be humorous as he was being playful with me earlier. He literally said quite aggressively that how about he whips me with it instead (with the actions too)?!?!?! I felt so uncomfortable and degraded. Even his friend didn't know where to look. Who on earth says that?! Like did he think that would impress me or did he get the impression I was into that sort of thing?! I now avoid him. I obviously bruised his ego and his reaction told me all I needed to know. But seriously this tactic could really filter out the toxic ones for us straight off the bat.
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Probably porn sick and delusional… I bet he thinks it comes across as sexy and dominant.
Lately I’ve been noticing that most men are absolutely clueless on what women actually like and want, and when you tell them they invalidate your experience anyway so there's no winning.
Who in their right mind makes such a comment to a complete stranger, and especially a woman? Only men who are losing their touch with reality due to a porn sickness!
wow, how embarrassing for him! glad you're steering clear.
Omgggg how disgusting 🤮🤮🤮🤮
He won't have got the impression you’re into that, it’s just how HE is. Don't internalise their scrotery!
Reminds me of a LVM who once very boldly told me that he was the way he was (similar to this guy’s behaviour), to every girl. He’d see who’d put up with it or not. Didn’t matter who the woman was!
Saying the word NO, is the most important tool we have to protecting ourselves imo. I never used it enough when I was younger. Now I say it right away to check a males reaction. The worst ones will snap quickly. Abusive males can't stand being told NO. The last guy snapped in less than a week of me enforcing my boundaries of respecting my time.
This is pornsickness. It's terrifying when men say this kind of stuff because it indicates they enjoy hurting women.
Eewww obv pornsick and gets off to men beating women. glad you dodged a bullet matrix style!
Wow, what a psycho.
Weirdoooo
The “No” tactic is the perfect way to screen out abusive men. As soon as they react badly, dump them.
I probably would have punched him in the face. I just see red when men say shit like this. I've done it before and I guarantee that man never harassed another woman again.
Some men just need to be punched.
Omg, what a scrote 🙄. But good on you for reacting like that!! I sometimes run this strategy on scrotes at work. A very important thing for me is to see whether a man can make fun of himself or not. So I joke with them a little bit and if they get upset or offended, that’s a red flag. It just shows they’re insecure and immature. The gym scrote probably thought how “strong” and “hot” he will sound while saying this to you. But you didn’t react like the women he watches in porn. Obviously he was embarrassed because no normal person would say this B-shit hence he didn’t show at the gym for a long time after that (probably masturbating to heal his bruised ego). You dodged a bullet real fast. Be glad.
I would have gone to management and reported that!!!
Where is the barf react
men who make over-the-top violent comments are so bizarre and offputting. definitely a massive red flag.
Lmfao you say no, he threatens you with assault in front of witnesses. Fucking idiot. I'd ask the gym for the security footage to press charges even if I wasn't going to so I could ensure the gym had taken notice of the incident as well. They should care more about their customers illegally threatening other customers.
And if I was in the mood to terrify him to his very soul I'd look at him with slightly crazy eyes and invite him to try his luck lest he find out how much better (read: faster) with a whip I am. "Oh yeah big boy, you going to whip me right here in a public establishment? If you want to leave this gym on your own two feet instead of a stretcher I'd take a big fucking step back and reconsider what you just said."