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I met this guy back in high school. He was friends with one of my friends and he went to a different school at the time. We hung out for about 3 to 4 hours one night senior year. Since then, we haven’t hung out or talked and that was eight years ago.
Ever since 2014 he has been messaging me on Facebook about once every six months just trying to say hi. I never respond because I’m pretty sure he has had a girlfriend during that time period.
Last night he messages me again saying hey. I figured you know what I’m going to see what he wants because this is getting annoying and I should’ve blocked him earlier. I respond saying hi and about 30 seconds and he asked me to come over to “hang out” His profile picture is literally him and his wife on their wedding day. I figured I’m gonna wait for him to give me his actual address and I was going to screenshot it in Messages wife over Facebook. He sent me his address I screenshot it it blocked him and sent the screenshot to his wife. I told her that if I had a significant other doing this I would want to know as well, I’m sorry.
As of this morning I have no response from her yet. After looking at his address that he sent me he lives in the same apartment building about two or three floors down. At this point I feel paranoid that him and I might run into each other doing laundry or something and he may confront me or get violent for ratting him out. Again we only hung out for a few hours eight years ago and I feel like I look completely different than I did eight years ago so hopefully he won’t recognize me.
Am I just being paranoid? I feel like I did the right thing.
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You did the right thing. I'd be eternally grateful for any woman who sent me proof my cheating husband was looking for side pieces.
It's terrifying they live in the same building as you, though?? That's really bad luck. I'd be paranoid, too. Men who get caught doing evil will often violently lash out and inflict evil on anyone shedding light onto what they're doing.
I hope you tell your friends and family what just happened so they can be prepared to help you in case the guy does recognize you and comes after you.
You did the right thing, but you didn't ruin his marriage. He did.
My God, you hung out ONCE. How many women is this loser messaging behind his wife’s back? 😰 Well done. I know it’s scary to do the right thing, but he is exploiting everyone’s fear of not rocking the boat to keep getting away with this. I also hate how some women may respond well to this, because “aLL tHE gOOd mEn Are TAKen” rubbish is interpreted as being able to get a married man somehow makes them good enough for the good men. Taken men are not automatically good.
You definitely did the right thing. Honestly if he is doing this type of stuff with you, he is probably doing it with other women as well. If I were the wife, I wouldn't out you by name or show him receipts. I think I honestly wouldn't bring it up at all, but start snooping and gathering evidence so that I wouldn't have to out any specific woman by name. Hopefully she is an FDS sister and gathering evidence for divorce.
As for your conduct around this guy, maybe just try to keep a low profile for a bit. If you see him, ignore his presence but not in a fishy way, just in a "I'm preoccupied with my own stuff" kind of way. I agree with the other poster that you should also let your friends and family know what is going on and if you are really scared, maybe stay at a friend's place for a week or have someone stay with you.
I applaud your actions; I'm so glad you sent the SS to his wife. I hope she sees it (if you're not FB friends, it might have gone to a different inbox on her end, but hopefully she'll see it anyway).
I don't think you're being paranoid; in fact, his casual offer to you to "come over and hang out" almost sounds like he already knows that you live close by. Otherwise how would he even know that was remotely possible? Watch your back, sis, and please keep us posted.