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Basically the title. We were never serious, just fwb (I know, I know🤡) I tried to break it off many times but I was to big of a pick me to leave for good. After seven months of emotional and psychological abuse I had the strength to end it. After two weeks of trying to explain to him that it's over, I finally ghosted him.
I blocked his number and all things were good for six months. In June he texted me from a different number and the message was really gross :" sometimes before fucking a girl's pussy you need to fuck her mind. Sometimes I miss you girl." 🤮🤮
I also got messages in August and at the begginings of October. From different numbers as well. I never replied. The final straw was when today I had to download what's app for university. Couple minutes later he texted me on what's app. I had enough. I don't want him messaging me anymore. I'm scared of him because he has anger issues and he's acting like a lunatic. I changed my number to feel safer. Hopefully this story is over.
^^ This. I just went through a round of this with a jackass who works in my industry, so we know some people in common, although not well.
Everyone PLEASE closely review all privacy settings, especially for FB & Instagram. It seems like I do this at least once a month, but I was unaware of one issue that I'm pretty certain allowed him to get in thru a mutual acquaintance, & thus access both accounts.
Since I had already blocked him on everything I could think of, he used a friend to check my LinkedIn account, also through an acquaintance.
But who would have thought to block an account you hadn't looked at since 2014? Yes, that was Classmates.com. I thought it was strange that I was getting a lot of email from them... & it was.
There's a lot of men out there who on the surface appear to be HVM, but after this experience, I completely deleted all of my OLD profiles. Since I am able to do background checks, I was pretty confident that there wouldn't be any issues; I was using a burner phone, a fake email, removed most of my personal data from the internet, had Google blur my house.
But that wasn't enough. I'll be watching over my shoulder for awhile- but I also highly encourage you to get your personal data off of Been Verified, Nuwber, FreePeopleSearch, Spokeo, Google, and yes, the White Pages. There are a ton of these sites out there, but those were pretty easy to deal with & remove your information quickly. But be aware that your family members data is on all of these sites as well, so if you have the time, remove all of them as well.
If anyone has any questions about this I'm happy to try and answer them, since your data is everywhere- & you do need to monitor it often for your own safety.
If you can afford it, don't hesitate to get a cheap burner/pre paid phone when in the vetting and casual dating phases. Use it for people you meet on apps, etc. Don't attach the number to any online accounts when signing up for various websites and apps. $30/mo will get you unlimited texting and peace of mind.
Document and keep everything. Depending on where you live, you can file for a restraining order or a temporary order of protection.
That being said, this can often ratchet up the level of crazy of your stalker. I went through this during my divorce, but my ex-husband was not a bright man and didn't consider what I did for a living, & ended up having his rights restricted for a while (and lost his job because of it)... can't say that this didn't make me laugh a little, but the only way I really got away was to take a job in a different state, and he moved on to another target.
One other thing I would suggest, if you trust your colleagues, neighbors, friends and family, is to let them know what is going on. It was embarrassing for me to do this - but the extra eyes on my situation (especially at work) I know saved me from him at least twice.
Your safety is the most important thing- use every tool you can to protect yourself. Feel free to msg me if you need additional information.... hang in there, it does stop eventually.
Stay strong Queen! 👑