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I F28 seriously feel like I'm never meeting an HVM and I'm about to stop dating once and for all, finding a partner has always been hard but I just hit a new low with this since I thought he was the one, he made everything seem like my fault but here are some of the things he did to me:
He drank a lot, (never alone), but whenever we went out, he would get wasted, and it really started to annoy me.
I felt like we were only meeting up to have sex (I mean, out of 7 days a week, it was 6 days of sex) and even told him that I was uncomfortable with this but he told me that "he loved fucking me"
I didn’t have time to do anything because my plans had to revolve around him and his plans and he hated my dog
He even criticized my appearance and what I wore (once I wore a tie, and he said I looked like a lesbian).
He said he was too lazy to go out with me because it was like having to learn everything all over again.
He got really mad when I tried to establish some limits when it came to a relationship
He was REALLY jealous (if I didn’t answer the phone, he thought it was because I was having sex with someone else).
I know that I also have my issues but this was just too much I know that he was a LVM but it still hurts and I'm done with all this.
Sorry, I just needed to vent.
If this is real... obviously this guy is trash and, sorry, was probably the one sleeping with someone else (projection 101).
If you feel like it was just about sex, he was probably just using you for sex.
Stop dating. Heal. Read the handbook. Center you. Then decide if you want to try again.
giving up on dating is the best thing i have done for my mental health. but it took me many disappointments and a lot of self reflection to reach the conclusion that i was better off alone. that might not be the solution for other women, though.
either way, what you need right now is to take a break from dating. work on yourself, level up, take care of your physical and mental health, work towards your professional goals. and most importantly: learn to appreciate being single and out of the dating pool. trust me, your life will improve A LOT. only after that you'll be able to truly know if you want a partner. and if you realize you do, you'll be better equiped to identify a HVM.
Go volunteer in DV shelter, cease being a pickme, and be grateful you haven't ended there or in the morgue.
He sounds... abusive. No wonder you have a hard time getting over him. You'll get there though, it takes more time than going through a normal break up.
Sometimes a man can be shitty but we still have a hard time with the break up.
It’s not your fault.
I think the best thing you can do is focus on other things. Find some new hobbies or get back into old ones.
Take a break from dating until you’re over this loser. Focus on yourself!
Also 28 isn’t old. You can find a hvm at any age.
I’m sorry you’ve been thru this. It sucks.
It took me decades to realize that I needed to love myself. It’s so cliche - but it’s true! Honestly it took hitting rock bottom with the worst Scrote you can imagine, before I finally realized I needed to stay away from men and heal.
Finding FDS is what gave me the courage to dump him. Not therapy (though that was helpful), not self-help books. I needed to hear the truth I’d always believed in my heart: that most men are worthless lying violent cheating controlling Scrotes, and I’m better off without them.
Someday, if I feel like it, I’ll consider letting a HV man into my life. But for now, I’m content on my own. And it feels good.
I hope this happens for you too. 💗