I ask because I just started at a new part time job a few weeks ago. we are a new store that just opened. I absolutely love it there, it fits my vibe perfectly and it gets me out of my apartment. But one night it was just 4 of us girls working till close. These two guys came in, obviously high. I welcomed them in and went back to organizing my section. All of a sudden this little creep sneaks up behind me and looks at my name tag and acts surprised that I'm working (as if I didn't just welcome him in 😒) and he's like "aww man you work here? I don't wanna hit on you while you're working, but honestly you're fine as fuck" some shit like that. and then proceeded to ask for my number. I gave him the ol' "I have a boyfriend" I thought men respected other men more, but he said "soooO it's not like you're married or anything" to which i replied "it's a live-in bf" and he said ok and he'd leave me alone or something..(he was whispering and being quiet so I couldn't even fully understand) I ran away and hid behind the registers with my coworkers and I tell them what just happened. The two girls there that were newly supervisors were not taught how to handle a situation like this, and were not sure if they had the authority to kick them out. I decide that I'm just gonna go on break, because it was that time anyways. I just wanted to go to the back away from that freak. Well, as I'm clocking out for my break, he sneaks back up and is basically BEGGING for my number. As he tells me he's a bad boy, and a king while licking his crusty ass lips. (🤢) and my supervisor just tells me to go on my break, while one calls the store manager and asks what to do. When I went to the back, they left. Thankfully. And after that situation my store manager had a talk with everyone there that night and told me if I'm ever uncomfortable to just tell one of them and to go to the back, and they now know they have the authority to kick people like that out and call the police if they refuse. My store manager made me feel a lot better about it, and I feel better prepared for moments like that, and I do not blame the girls for not wanting to risk their jobs. I was even playing as nice as I could because I didn't want to risk my job (or life) either. Thinking back, I feel like I was too nice. And that's why he felt like it was okay to be so persistent and not take no for an answer. At one point before I walked off to the backroom I just told him to leave his number bc I was just so in panic mode and wanting out of the situation. But now I know, if I'm ever uncomfortable I can just tell someone and go to the back. but it might not always be so easy to do, you never know. So I was wondering how you ladies would handle a situation like this, or if you've ever dealt with something like this and have advice! For the longest time I've been kind of a shut in, and I'm really being more out in the world alone, so it could even happen some place that is not work. I just want to know what the best thing to do in these situations is that will keep me safe and not escalate things.
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first off the work environment being supportive when this shit happens is of utmost importance and it's great to know your store manager has your back. i would suggest channeling your best work attitude and never faltering when scrotes try their luck. pretend like you're really just doing your job and nothing else and hopefully they'll get the hint and fuck off. upsell whatever they're looking at and it's a bonus if it's something super embarrassing because then you can bring it up loudly for anyone else to hear in the vicinity. keep yourself safe above all else and never engage with anyone that looks threatening. have coworkers be aware of your movements in your store. all the best, queen ♥️
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I have so much ptsd from decades of this crap. I work from home now. I thank covid for making work from home more wide spread. I will have to be in danger of being jobless before I go back to an office. Being old helps with unwanted attention in the workplace but it doesn't stop it. Just reduces it. Being female means men hit on us. I fully support women being toxic bitches to any man dishing unwanted attention.
First of all, four young women working alone at night is too enticing to predators and nuisances so can they get you guys a very large security guy? I reckon you’d get less crude advances from creeps like this
Aggressive guys will escalate if you are confrontational or bruise their ego too much. For a professional setting where rudeness or screaming match isn’t going to be okay for your image or the business, use a shit sandwich rejection: “Thanks for the compliment, no I‘m not interested/available, but thank you for the compliment, I have to get back to work now.” If they don’t feel a little good and leave you alone immediately, then literally leave and hide or do some random work task away from them. It’s a good idea to have a plan on how to react before this ever happens, and good to discuss with coworkers and managers. If it’s a workplace that gets regulars, and he didn’t accept “no”, notify coworkers and managers that you want them to handle that guy whenever he comes in.
Your employer/managers/supervisors have an obligation to provide a work place for you that's safe and free from harassment. You should be able to tell creepy men to get out of your face, walk away, tell a manager (or whoever) and know they'll have your back and kick the scrote out. It sounds like your employer intends to do the right thing, and you know that now. Don't be polite if you dont want to. Trust your gut. Harassing, disrespectful, creepy, and dangerous men are not allowed in your store. Tell them to fuck off.
I would call out a make believe name of a person loudly. Mary! Mary! Like I am trying to get this “Mary’s “ attention and that she’s just barely out of earshot. I would continue calling and pretending to see “Mary”while swiftly and calmly walking to somewhere safe. When you get to safety you can call your coworkers and let them know what’s going on. Make a plan from there. Don’t engage, acknowledge, respond or look at anyone. Just put it in gear and follow your imaginary friend to safety.
Yell loudly NO MEANS NO!
I've never been sexually harassed in my life. Men have only been very rude to me in non-sexual ways.
I remember the manager pulling me aside and telling me all the female overnight employees have been sexually harassed by customers and I have the right to report it as soon as it happens.
She looked me in the eyes and told me to be honest if I ever experienced it...
Nope... Nothing 😶
In my entire time working those crappy jobs, I never got hit on by customers.
Many many rude and angry customers though, some cussed me out and I had to just say "Okay. Have a good night." I used to get so angry when I thought about how rude some customers were but I got over it now since it was years ago.
You could not force me to work retail/fast food/or any customer facing job again.
I straight up say I'm married to a crazy person and I show off my fake wedding ring