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For starters, my parents had to control my diet at a young age because I had an unhealthy weight issue according to my doctor. What they did was for my health, but like, I just get the "ick" from guys trying to control what I eat.
I love anything peach scented or with peaches. I remembered I had a peach drink before seeing him, and later we went out for food, and I ordered something with peaches off the menu. It shouldn't be a problem right? Not with him. He stopped me and said questioned/complained why I was ordering peaches again. He wanted me to be more open to other options... that was his reasoning. I was left confused and unsure of what to order and I ended getting something I did not like. I got this tropical coconut drink that was too rich for me and I couldn't finish it, and he had to finish both our drinks which were larges. He started complaining again about how I waste food. I would have finished it if he let me get what I wanted in the first place.
This is the second time this has happened while I was on a date. I don't understand why guys do this. They just end up fucking themselves over by trying to finish both drinks.
There was no second date after this; he's done. I need to be with someone who is okay with my decisions. I'm the type of person that knows what I like when it comes to food.
Controlling you to avoid a flavor you like is so bizarre and messed up 😣 A HVM would definitely be seeking out new peachy treats and dishes for you!
Another awful one that I and other friends have experienced is men assuming that they can take your food before you’ve gotten a chance to eat enough. Say he orders a sandwich and you order fried chicken. Then he helps himself to pieces of your chicken, and is also unwilling to share his sandwich. Men should assume that your food is YOURS, until IF you decide to graciously offer that he can try a bite (not half your plate).
A man making negative comments about what I eat or trying to pressure or control me in that regard is gone. This is a hard dealbreaker for me.
I am mostly vegetarian and there are certain smells, tastes and textures that are hard nos for me in addition to that (yay, neurodivergence). There are things I can eat on some days or if they are prepared in a certain ways or in very small amounts, but that also varies. There are other things that I will not eat or even try or prepare for someone else. Ever. Period.
I eat a healthy and varied diet regardless but I will not tolerate a partner who tries to interfere with what I eat.
Ugh, this is such a red flag. I’m a little overweight and I’ve been like that since high school. My ex would get mad about the food I was eating bc it wasn’t healthy enough for him, and then when I went vegetarian he got so mad bc I wouldn’t cook him food with meat in it anymore.
I'm here for the peach representation, hands down my favorite fruit (I made peach sorbet yesterday lol). Other than that, yeah, f men who think their opinion on what you eat matters. My ex was upset about me going vegan and he thought he should have "a say too" because it would be also affecting him lmao. In the end, he accepted it because he realized he could get woke / progressive points for being on board, but his first reflex was "why won't you compromise for meeee". My current bf will make the same dish for me three times in a row whenever I have a new hyperfixation on a certain food. The funny thing is that he is not particular about food at all, he'll basically eat whatever, and I also wouldn't be able to handle a partner who was as "extra" as me around food. A relationship can handle only one of me 🤣
MAJOR FLASHBACKS
So my ex would say things like "You look attractive eating healthy" "If you weigh 160, we're breaking up....oh my god babe, it's just A JOKE!!!!!", "I wouldn't be eating that if I were you", I would comment how much I love a particular food & his response would be "Yeah...I can tell"
I do that to my youngest sister (8 yo) for learning purposes but doing that to a grown woman is fuckin weird. They think we have fuckin Alzheimer's or something and we can't make our own choices sometimes 😂