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I was out walking my dog in the neighbourhood (I live in a pretty busy neighbourhood with lots of stores, restaurants and such so there are always lots of people around there who don't necessarily live in that area.
I walked past this mid-thirties looking scrote (I am 24 btw), who didn't really look that dirty/rugged/homeless/innebriated on drugs or alcohol etc., just a regular looking dude (but he was wearing a backpack around his chest). He stopped me and said "Excuse me mam, I have no where to sleep tonight. What should I do?".
The pre-FDS me would have probably felt super bad for him and tried to look up shelters and such on my phone to make sure he would be okay.
But now, all I said was "Sorry to hear that", and then continued walking away.
I am genuinely offended that this scrote even 1% thinks that I would ever give a fuck about his quandary. Wtf did he expect ME to say/do? "AWWWWW POOR BABY!!! Want to come to my house and sleep in my bed with me tonight??"
Thank you FDS for teaching me (of many, many things) that the problems of men (let alone RANDOS), are NOT mine to give a fuck about. Men know better than to ever ask a woman for help, EVER, and the one's that do are up to no good/attempting to use women's deeply socialized/ingrained empathy and kindness for THEIR benefit, and thus should be ignored entirely and GUILT-FREE.
I don't even feel bad for homeless men in general anymore as 99.99% of men who are homeless are because of their own shitty choices. I only give food/money to homeless women, because on the contrary- most homless women are in that state because of a man (leaving an abuser etc.). There was an awesome podcast episode on this as well.
The audacity of this man asking a woman stranger a decade younger than him what he should do 😤 Good for you for being cool-headed and dismissive. Men are really desperate to rely on any soft-hearted woman they can find to serve as their immediate interim mommy bangmaid.
That man sounded very dodgy. You were 100% right to not help. Congratulations on your quick thinking OP.
The part that scares me is how much I relate to your "pre-FDS me." I would have done the exact same thing in my pick-me days: tried to help.
We are socialized to try to make men feel better. Guaranteed several of the women I know would have wanted to help him.
I have a friend who is USUALLY very non-pick me. However, I was shocked one day to see her going out of her way to give money to a man begging on the street; that was our socialization kicking in.
Good job with not skipping a beat 🧡
I just do not give a fuck about homeless working- age men, especially white men. If I, as a tiny woman with immigrant parents who couldn't speak English and from a poor area with a toxic family, could make something of myself, they could have to. My ex used to say 'Stop feeling sorry for them. It's their life choice.' He really pulled me out of misplaced empathy.
Also, last night, I walked by a homeless guy that had been asking for money in the day time for a while now, somewhat politely. Yet last night, he called me sweet cheaks and told me my priority should be to stay safe... what, from creeps like him?
#NotLITERALLY 😭