Dissecting Flirting: Clown isn't actually doing me any favors.

I made some previous posts about this clown who I basically have to deal with because of my job - our companies basically have shared issues which mean we have to work together quite often. Basically, he has been avoiding me - which makes it harder for me to do my job and even had my boss questioning if I was doing what was asked of me! UGH

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recently, I've happened to bump into him, so I mentioned the upcoming work issue. I kept it professional and wasn't trying to be a pickme - but i am honestly exhausted of the work concerns and trying to hunt him down. to my surprise, he was being flirty. of course my pickme coworkers saw this and I heard them talking. I just acted professional and then told him we all would be here if he had any concerns and that I'd let him get on with his day. he then tells me that there's a special entrance to his job and that i'm allowed to use it so it's easier for me to come over if i need to.

a few more days passed, and my pickme boss sends ME to speak to HIM specifcally. I decide to use the special entrance and basically walk into a massive mess - the other employees aren't doing their jobs and there's a million things happening all at once. i see him and he looks extremely stressed and exhausted - and then he sees me and stops, looks all calm, and comes over to see what he can do for me. so he ends up taking care of the problem and being flirty, and then tells me he can do me basically a huge favor (not an auto business but basically would be similar to getting parts for my car at below cost and installing them for free). he then brought up the past work issues, apologized, and then basically told me what the situation was at his job (understaffing and having issues with employees- and my coworker and myself also heard the same things from other employees there). additionally my boss puts me under a lot of pressure lately to be the one going back and forth between my company and his - so we agreed to come and speak to each other ahead of the issues.

so ive been keeping my distance lately (and im even trying to avoid bumping into him) and when i do have to see him i'm just trying to be professional and treat him like i'd treat anyone else. my coworkers and boss were all smiley and I'm sure theyre having me see him because they know he has some weird crush on me.

truthfully, i rememered FDS and that all his interactions with me have basically been forced because of work and otherwise he hasnt made any effort. i even saw that his work situation is a disaster but again that STILL isnt an excuse to let problems build up (for himself and me and my job). he tends to avoid and hide from me and always acts nervous. offering the favor was nice, but again im not too impressed because that "big favor" might be something he offers a lot of people and really might not be a big deal at all (it could even be shady or him actually doing less work because of it). at work it's super easy to come and look for me and even easier to simply ask to see me.... so why is it i've had to be the one to hunt him down or stop him quick when i do happen to see him? that thing with the special enterance - my coworkers all said they end up going that way.

so when any guy is flirting with you, think a little deeper on it, because chances are, it's not anything special or to be impressed over. think a little deeper on people's hidden motives - my coworkers had all been asking me about being single not too long before this, and those "favors" are like loaded questions. and lastly, a man being nice to you especially in this weird situation of mine may not be flirting - he could have just been trying to schmooze a little for his own gain.

always assume a man is LV, always assume the glass is half empty, always assume the worst situation, unless he proves multiple times otherwise. all of this has been weird with him and I will keep everyone updated.