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I haven't dated in a few years and within the past month, TWO scrotes from my past (both were male orbiter types never actually went on a date, just chatted a little and then blocked when I saw a red flag) both found creepy ways to get around the block.
Stupidly I made a tik tock to do a product review which I was paid to do. So I made an account just to order the product through tik tock shop. Later, I got a notification saying scrote followed me on tik tock and was viewing my page! I was mortified at the notification but working so I couldn't address it until I got home. That's when I noticed he'd sent me a bunch of messages on tik tock! So I had to block him there and then I deleted the app.
Then a few days ago, another notification pops up on my phone saying I have a Facebook messenger notifications. I don't use messenger other than with my parents. But it was another scrote and he had been blocked via phone number and Facebook and somehow made another account, found my Facebook and sent messages to me. I thought I was only supposed to get messages from friends, but he came through! So I had to block and delete him yet again!
A few months ago, I had a bunch of weird numbers texting me "hey what's up" which I blocked but wonder if it was these scrotes trying different fake numbers to get around the fact I'd blocked their real number.
I just want to remind everyone that these SCROTES WILL NOT GO AWAY. it has easily been 4 or 5 years since I spoke to these dudes and I didn't tell them I was blocking them or anything, I just didn't respond and blocked. They are desperate and this is creepy.
When I was dating I didn't think of it but for anyone who is dating: use a FAKE phone number with men. They will use your real one and sometimes if it's linked to your social media platforms and will continue to suggest you to these guys.
If you can before you even go on a date, see if you can find their social media. Sniff through it if possible because it helps verify they are who they are and they're not a catfish. It's also a quick and easy way to look for red flags. When you've looked through it enough, block their accounts. Otherwise if things sour, he will find it and try to harass you.
Set boundaries with families and friends especially if you're from a small, gossipy town like I am. My parents bumped into an ex of mine a few months back and he was asking them personal, creepy, questions about me like where I worked, where I lived, etc. He'd been blocked and didn't know much about me and was trying to get info from them to possibly snoop or worse to me! I've made it clear to friends and family that if they do run into an ex of mine try not to engage with them but if it's unavoidable do NOT give away anything about me. Literally tell them that "it's none of your business".
Blocked = NO ACCESS to me. No looking at me, no talking to me, no knowing anything more about me or my life. Scrotes cannot handle having no access to us. No means NO.
Furthermore, I use the do not disturb setting I have a galaxy phone. I have a setting so I can only get calls and texts from saved numbers. You can also ask your phone carrier about changing your number or look into getting a different plan with a new number and getting rid of your current number if it's too late like me because I foolishly gave my exes my real number.
Never never respond to these guys. I will advise though that if he keeps reaching out SCREENSHOT IT /Get proof it happened before blocking him again because then you'll have a paper trail if you need to file a restraining order.
I'm 30 years old and they say women are desperate, clingy, and emotional .... funny the people that say this are always scrotes. Projection. I can't imagine harassing someone at all let alone finding creative ways to get around being blocked 5 years ago. All the audacity and effort but was nonexistent when it came to planning a date or moving out of mom's basement (which Is largely why I blocked them)
They probably had low emotional intelligence and were feeling slighted or possibly they had mental illness or low self esteem - that can be dangerous - suddenly blocking or ghosting people does have a negative effect so I usually just state my honest intentions "hey so and so I enjoyed talking with you but I'm not feeling any sparks, thanks for your time." Talk to them like a business as it's impersonal and high value and definitely the fake Google voice numbers are a must!
This is not to excuse scrote behavior though the fact that they couldn't take a hint like that indicates underlying issues on their part not yours.
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That’s interesting. With me, I set boundaries with them from the start. I literally don’t respond and leave them on read. I know it’s hard and a little triggering seeing them text you, but at this point, I’ve practiced indifference and it works wonders!
Also, is it possible for you to get a business number? It seems as though your personal and work life are getting intertwined. I know it’s inevitable to run into scrotes at work, but these different numbers will give you some peace knowing that there’s a space these dudes can’t have access to.
This post was a good read. Very observant and spot on. I’ve experienced the same thing where they return after literal YEARS.
I completely agree with not linking your number to social media- once it’s attached it’s a nightmare to detach on certain platforms. IG especially, even once it’s removed it still finds a way to suggest your account to people you might know and vice versa.