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I’m honestly just not going to try dating again in my life after this experience, I’m 22 so every single man in my generation has been completely brain rotted by misogyny/porn/Andrew tate bullshit podcasts and it’s simply not worth it.
Summary: broke loser stole my personal belongings and discarded them out of spite
We were supposed to go to this bar/grill he recommended. He didn’t wanna go because there was a 9 dollar cover fee. He said he knew another place but he actually didn’t he just strolled into the adjacent bar. I asked if we were splitting, he said yes, I said “no problem” and he said “Why would you ask me that?” and went on about how all his ex girlfriends would pay for HIM (he’s 26) all the time and I said “cool but I’m fine with splitting like you suggested” and he started acting so bizarre?
He just randomly got quiet. Like he started looking off into the distance as they say, probably feeling like he was Batman or smth and I was like "are you okay" and he was like "I've just never had someone ask me that before" and I was like "ok" and he said “I don't think we’re compatible” and he was silent for at least 5-10 mins while I worked on my paper through my phone. I got up and told him I’d be leaving and he suddenly started whining that I made him uncomfortable so that’s why he wasn’t talking (the type of guy to grab your boobs and say ACTUALLY IM STIMMING!! STOP OPPRESSING ME!!)
He basically ran out of the restaurant while I was paying, maybe because he planned this, and I realized 20 mins later I left my coat in his car (I guess ADHD IS a disability because I regret not bringing my stuff inside SO much). He never responded to my messages; I asked my friend to contact him and he replied today saying “I left it at the restaurant” and misspelled restaurant like the brain dead moron he is.
PLEASE be more attentive. I didn’t know he’d be like this until we sat down but I’m kicking myself for not seeeing the signs. Because I went out with this immature scrote, I lost an extremely valuable coat and my favourite earmuffs.
I’ve filed an online police report but I don’t know if it’ll get approved. I’m so upset since it was purchased for me by my aunt the last time she was still alive. I don’t know why these men are such cowards and pussies nowadays, I truly hate them. I wish I never went out with him.
Don't ever ask if you're splitting. If you doubt or need to question even for one instant whether he is going to pay for the date, do not go out with him. The assumption is that he is paying. He sounds like a real creep. I don't know what country you're in, but in the US, it's the police's job to help return stolen property. I hope you follow up on your report and get your stuff back.
I’m so sorry!!!! How did you meet this piece of garbage?
Seems like his plans was to have you pay for everything
I’m going to say all this with love for you sister. First point, no, NOT every man is brain rotten. Study manifestation and law of assumption. If you believe that they all are, that is exactly what you’ll experience. If you believe you are a divine being worthy of divine love, you will also experience that.
Second, why on earth would you ever ask a MAN if he’s splitting? Never do that again in your life. No, you are NOT fine with splitting because that’s disgusting of a man to do and means he’s a bum. If a man suggest to split on a first date, before you even fix your mouth to order anything, get up and LEAVE. As soon as you leave, he should be blocked and deleted. That’s ugly and you shouldn’t even breathe around men like that. Third, if a man ever mentions ex girlfriends in a derogatory way, block and delete. Period.
Fourth, you should NEVER get in a man’s car that you have not been seeing for an extended period of time, and has proven himself many times to be trustworthy and kind. NEVER EVER do that again: He should cashapp you for an Uber or you drive to dates. He should never know where you live until you’re in a relationship.
Fifth, if you want your belongings back, ask him to leave them in a public space, and if he declines again, inform him you will be filing a police report. If you do, go to a physical police station and file a report. If possible, have a male that you know call him and ask sternly for your belongings.
If that man was crazier, he could have kidnapped, r*ped or murdered you. Please be safer. No man is worth risking your safety. You deserve to be spoiled and treated like a Queen. Require the world from men.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope you get your coat back 💔