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So I had a coworker that I always got the impression liked me more than a coworker. I would catch him staring at me during meetings and he would blush when talking to me. You sometimes just know when someone might have a crush on you, and this was one of those times. I've never said anything to anyone about that because I hate drama in the workplace and value having a good reputation in my professional life.
Anyway, this scrote had a girlfriend, and I always got the idea that she wanted to get married and have children. My coworker and his girlfriend got together before the pandemic and pretty much moved in together when COVID hit. Fast forward to November 2021. She breaks up with him and moves out at breakneck speed because he said he didn't want marriage and children with her. As a follower of FDS, I thought that was a Queen move that she didn't settle. My coworker spent the best part of a year on Tinder and told me that him and his ex didn't have anything in common and he wasn't sure about her. He struggled with OLD as he is, ultimately, a LVM.
Last October I got engaged to a wonderful HVM. My coworker learned about this and acted a bit weird around me after that. Two weeks later, I learned that he had begged his ex to get back with him and then two weeks after that he had proposed to her and they were engaged. I left the company we worked for and then learned that they had got married a couple of weeks ago as she was pregnant.
I can't get my head around this and wanted to share this story with you because so many women take LVM back and just settle. He clearly couldn't find anyone on OLD and went back to her. A lot of people that know him think it's romantic, but I really don't. I'm also weirded out that my news may have spurred all of this. Ladies, if a guy wants you back and is willing to give you the things you wanted almost immediately, be suspicious, not flattered.
Lmao its like he had to “compete” w you when he heard you were engaged. What a freak and I can’t believe she took him back. You know he’s gonna cheat on her w OLD too. yikes be glad you’re not apart of that circus
I’ve noticed that LV people can act super weird around HV people, but at least it gives us clarity since their masks are falling off.
Like my "nice" and "supportive" long term guy friend started acting really weird-- shy and sheepish around me yet really arrogant around my new HVM. A few months later he got a GF who was scarily identical to me (same looks, race, personality, etc) and she was infatuated with him but he seemed disinterested. I instantly clicked with her but clearly this made him jealous so he became super controlling over her. Obviously she got hurt, I called him out for his abuse, we argued and I found out he was a red pill Tate fan and ended up blocking him, then the next day she did the same! Nowadays, I'm always suss about men, even if they start off friendly.
And it’s not just LVM. LVW/pickmes “act out” too when amongst HV people. Again, when I started being more vocal about FDS views and my HVM came into the picture my pickme friends doubled down HARD on their LV relationships, even if she was crying earlier about dumping him. Suddenly posting 24/7 about their amazing scrote BF or endlessly bragging about their own bodies/hotness to make themselves feel better i guess? Obviously I try to give women more grace and support, but again it’s just so weird and kinda sad.
it's the damn hope + forgiveness + "no one will ever match my standards anyway" combo.
i do not have hope.
i do not forgive.
i do not lower my standards.
and i have learned that the hard way.
that means i'm spending my life alone and i really don't mind that. i'd rather be alone than with a man who will forever resent me because i'm not the one he actually wants. and even if i was, he would then resent me for aging, caring more about our children, being more successful, healthier, whatever. they always find a way to hate us in the end. i don't trust men.
Stuff like this is why I’m suspicious of men. I see it this way - if he isn’t into me from day 1 and consistently courting me, his attention is elsewhere.
I call them boomerang boys. You think they're gone, then after a few weeks, months, or years (six years, for one guy I dated) they return, thinking you'll be waiting to welcome them back.
Wow! Whew! What a mess for them. When we at FDS say things like “Getting married isn’t a flex” this story is like the classic example of it. Men marry for convenience, all the time.
It takes a lot of awareness to ::SEE:: how your ex coworker weirdo’s wife has gotten totally screwed over by this entire gross male and his effed up triangle that obviously neither woman ever consented to be a part of… damn. So many scrotes are in limerence with women they could never have, while faking an entire marriage with the woman he’s using. Stay safe out there.