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It was a first date off of Hinge. We got dinner at a pretty nice (like $$) place that he chose. The date itself was alright, but I'm fucking pissed at how it ended.
The waiter comes and sets the check down in the middle. He doesn't immediately reach for it, so I already know there's gonna be trouble.
I'm very proud of myself for staying strong! I don't even glance at it. I keep talking about my previous topic (how teachers across the US are bailing because of poor pay, poor working conditions, and how now they're expected to deal with the emotional labor due to the fallout of covid). He kind of stops responding to what I'm saying and keeps looking away uncomfortably. I keep my back straight and refuse to mention the check 😠
We stay in this stalemate FOR SO LONG that the waiter actually comes over, grabs the empty checkbook, and walks away. He then realizes there was no card in it, laughed, and handed it back to us, apologizing. Holy shit hahahah I was actually grateful for this just so it highlighted how messed up the whole situation was. Idk if he was onto the guy or what but I was super glad.
Begrudgingly, my date finally pulls out his card and pays for our meal THAT HE INVITED ME ON in the restaurant HE CHOSE. Like wtf?!
I still refuse to mention it. He walked me to my car and I said thanks for dinner and fucking drove off.
I'm pretty offended, I wouldn't say taking it personally but offended on behalf of women everywhere. Like paying for the first date is super, super standard even in mainstream non-FDS communities. It's so messed up to put me in such an awkward position. What the fuck?
He was trying to play mind games with you. I'm glad you stood your ground.
And on to the next, sis!
Good on you for staying strong. I could feel the discomfort!
Lol he actually thought you were going to offer to split the bill. He chose the restaurant. He should have looked at the menu online. Most restaurants have online menus.
What a piece of garbage. Props on keeping your back straight!
A Mexican standoff! He just embarrassed himself in public. A HVM won’t even think twice (he would’ve even paid it asap while you excuse yourself to the bathroom). Well done for staying strong! Proud of you Queen 💪🏻💅🏻👑
Good for you for bearing the awkwardness to assert yourself! Queen move. 👑
Well, he’s a never again…
Pathetic scrote—I bet he’s still sitting there wondering why no one wants a second date with him.
Don’t even bother with online dating its truly the bottom of the barrel
I’m glad you were able to stay strong! It’s really the audacity of men who ASKED you on a date and still expect to split the bill or worse case scenario make you pay. Now you know the type of guy he is very early on. If he’s already playing mind games like this who knows what else he will try to do if you continued seeing him. Thank you, next.
Lol did he expect you to pay? Well to avoid unpleasant situations I say right away that whoever asks me out needs to treat me to dinner. My time needs to be compensated, respect it or go away.
Dating is part of the vetting process. He showed his colours. This is not a man who would make a supportive partner. NEXT his ass.
It’s nuts to me how everyone alive KNOWS the man is supposed to pay, especially if he picked the place and it’s expensive! I cannot believe men out here think all dates should be 50/50 or worse, the woman should pay for… the privilege of his company? Here’s an idea — for that same cost, you could go out with friends to a place you chose and have a better time.
What is getting to me is that 50/50 guys have caught up that it is even more beneficial to them to take turns paying. Men eat and drink alcohol much more, woman's actual share of the bill never exceeds 30%. Now they are selling taking turns as the new 50/50.
I've heard of scrotes taking a woman to inexpensive place on a first date, paying the bill, inviting her to expensive place on a second date, order a bunch of things and drinks, then springing it on a woman that it's her turn to pick up the bill. Basically scrotes are the ones looking for free meals.
this is a win! 💪🏽💪🏽
I've noticed waiters have started to ask "together or separate?" before taking the order. Not mad about it.
I wish I was on your level. I am proud for you for standing for yourself. If he is like this about a fucking first date imagine the kind of partner he is down the line.