Hi everyone
This is a bit of an update on my last post: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/scrotation-report-3/i-just-realized-my-ex-who-i-d-been-upset-about-for-the-past-2-months-was-a-chronic-liar-need-help-explaining-this-behaviour
The post was about a situationship I had with a chronic liar. At the end of the post I mentioned that he had sent screenshots of his private convo with his ex to me to prove how "crazy" she was about him. I was feeling vengeful so I reached out to her and decided to tell her about this.
She proceeds to thank me and tell me that they were never official, but more importantly that this happened TWO YEARS AGO and that he had convinced her that they should just be friends. She said she was sad bc she thought they were friends and that he even hugs her every time he sees her at uni. Meanwhile he was talking mad shit about her including how crazy she was about him, how she switched her major to be with him, lies about how she left her ex to be with him etc. Some "friend", huh?
Let this be a lesson to not stay on good terms with a situationship, let alone an ex.
I'm literally never hugging a man again.
There are always two sides to a story. "No matter how flat you make a pancake it's got two sides "-Dr. Phil. Whenever a male tells me his side of his story about an ex relationship, I take it with a huge grain of salt. Especially, if they use the word crazy. Because usually, if a woman is acting "crazy" it's because that male made her crazy with his gaslighting, chronic lying, and manipulation.
When it's over it's over. I don't talk to that person anymore if it ends, even if we both agree to part ways I still wouldn't stay in contact. Ppl always moan that you can stay friends but I'm not going to do that because if he regrets his decision it's easier for him to reach out and manipulate you back. Men who manipulate you to come back will drop you sooner for the next chick. You're just a shill to him at that point.
Even with children involved, I still owe him nothing. He can call them if he wishes to speak to them but I will not allow an ex in my house again.
Yeah I don't believe in staying friends with the ex even if the break-up was amicable. My main reason is because most men are not interested in platonic friendships with women and only befriend women in the hope that one day they'll be able to manipulate her into sleeping with him. Also I think it's easier to get over a break-up if you're not still in contact with your ex. Don't get me wrong, if I bumped into an ex on the street, I wouldn't make a scene or anything, but I don't believe in being friends.
Ugh! Men!
I have an ex I despise. But I am polite if we ever run into each other (once in over a decade).
An ex is an ex for good reason(s).
If I bumped into an ex , I wouldn't be friendly. I'd pass him like a stranger in the street.
I don't owe him anything. Or anyone for that matter.
If he pushed me to interact, I might live up to the crazy label he gave me if he forces me.