.png)
A while back, I posted about having a crush on this guy at work. Some things have unfolded since the event.
I had a relapse in judgement, but nothing crazy happened. Those feelings came back but it was milder than the first. My mother still believes that he’s single, but she says that there’s something missing from the equation. One of the things that makes her believe that’s he’s single is that he eats out a lot or eats frozen meals. There’s also like mannerisms in him which makes her believe that he’s single. For example, the fact that he stays after hours super late. My mother thinks that when you’re with someone or have family, the first you want to do is go home to them instead of using the company’s electricity.
Another reason why I had a relapse was when he asked me if I wanted children since we’re talking about our weekend plans. This is his exact words. He said that his friend had a baby and this is a big deal since no one in his friend has had children yet. I asked him what he got for the kid and he sheepishly said a plushie. I was heavily fixated on the wrong things and thought he was still liked me. I was happy for a few days over the wrong things. However, once I told my mother, she knew right away that he wasn’t serious. Given that he was asking about maternity leave. She instantly said he doesn’t want kids and he’s not serious.
Anyways, it all makes sense today. I needed his signature and approval for some documents and walked into something that I should not have heard. I overheard him say to the other person on the line that his baby mama is on maternity leave and not working. Instant u-turn in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, he saw me and now, he’s giving me dirty looks. I told my mom what happened. She started connecting the dots to all these unanswered questions. So he’s single, but has a kid.
My mom has always been three steps ahead of me. Him asking me questions about having children was basically him trying to see if I was his next victim. I’m just upset because he knew all along that I liked him (probably from the first moment). Also, who gives their baby a fucking toy?! I’ve paid for my friends groceries and given them $100 for baby supplies! 😠
Middle aged and older women often have finely tuned instincts when it comes to men. The pick-mes amongst them will ignore their instincts, but the instinct is real, and it's nearly always right.
I’m glad you have a such a perceptive Mom. She’s a gift.
I’m also very glad your crush is CRUSHED.
Honestly, so much of this story was inside your own head and heart. He is a scrote, has always been a scrote, but he seemed attractive so it was easy to dismiss your concerns (in your heart and mind).
He stays late at work to avoid having to help with the baby. He’s a loser with a capital L.
I’m glad you can see it all now. Go take care of yourself. The energy and focus you spent paying attention to him? Put that energy into making your own like the best it can be. 💕
People date the coworkers because they're literally just there. Avoid it at all costs. Don't be his free "work gf" 🤢
Sorry, I paused at he eats out a lot/he eats frozen meals. Unless he’s married, and extremely decent at that, why would he have some home cooked lunch anyway 🤣 that does not prove if he’s single.
<<Male crushes always end up crushing you. It’s female romanticising and a waste of time >>
Also it’s good your mom gives you advice 👍 my fav advice is “never admit or show your feelings in vain” basically all crushes are vain. Your feelings should be protected/hidden unless a man is actively doing things to show he’s courting you.
whenever you look back at your crushes, you’ll be glad you dodged them 😌