This is the 2nd post here this week that involves a woman being intoxicated and a man sexually taking advantage of such.
Please start paying attention to how often alcohol is a part of the equation.
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Jun 15, 2023
I hope this was a wake up call for her, but mistake #1 was going to his house. We don't know if she got drunk at a bar with him then went to his house, or if she drove to his house sober then they drank there. But alcohol and males don't mix. I do not drink with males anymore. I drink alone or with females. I am surprised he didn't just jump on top of her and forced himself inside her. I, too, have put myself in all kinds of dangerous situations being drunk around males. I am so lucky I was never raped. But I didn't know any better. I was still naive and trusting,( like this female is), believing that males can be upstanding moral humans beings that can be trusted. They can't.
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Jun 16, 2023
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This is the unfortunate reality for women. We can't even enjoy a drink around a man.
An insidious aspect of patriarchy is when women can't do things they enjoy when men are present. This doesn't have to be drinking. It can be walking on a trail, swimming at a beach, reading in a park, working out at the gym--in short, merely existing in public.
I’ve noticed often that when a woman or girl shares a story like this they mention that the male “doesn’t understand no” or “didn’t realize I was uncomfortable”. I honestly wish we could just call it what it is. They understand being told no, you recoiling/pushing them away. They’re just predators and dgaf.
Yeb, if their buttholes where to get involved they would all of a sudden understand and have a very good grasp of what consent is and what rape is. These scrote know.
Unknown member
Jun 16, 2023
Giving males the benefit of the doubt could be your death sentence.
He is a disgusting person who tried to rape her. However, we need to also hold women accountable. She doesn’t know him, he is a stranger so she decided to go to his house? He could’ve murdered her for god’s sake. There has to be some common sense too. Seriously?? You couldn’t Uber to a friends house or your parents?? Hell, get a motel room somewhere. Being reckless has consequences. This man is a pig but women need to be more careful. Ugh. I feel bad for her. She knew she was drunk, she should’ve went somewhere SAFE. A strangers house is not safe.
She absolutely didn’t deserve to be assaulted. No one ever does. My reaction is that it’s so sad and scary that she could think going to a strange man’s home was an option. Women are so vulnerable and naive and it’s painful to hear stories of how that contributes to suffering at the hands of men.
Holding women accountable for what exactly? Stupidly expecting to be treated like humans while we are young? Not having all the knowledge in the world about men at that age? Getting gaslit by patriarchy from birth?
I had a male best friend for years. We once smoked weed together and I decided to take a nap. He started to touch me and stopped when he saw I was awake. He then mocked me for being upset.
No matter what we do, some way we are supposed to know everything about male behaviour without someone ever teaching us in this pick-me world. Victim blaming is pick-me behaviour and I don’t think it belongs on FDS.
She later commented saying that it didn’t hit her how fucked up the whole thing was until she got home and talked to a friend.
Sometimes it takes a while for these things to sink in.
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Jun 16, 2023
Reddit is absolutely wild. A true cesspool. Especially that AITA subreddit. I find myself asking what the fuck did I just read, daily. The formula is some crazy shit like:
I (F48) caught my husband (M61) fucking the neighbor’s cow. I expressed concern over it, and the fact that he frequents strip clubs and hires prostitutes, but now him, our 5 kids and the entire rest of the family won’t speak to me. They said I was wrong for reporting him to the police and that I didn’t have to be so mean and unforgiving about it. My son said I hurt our family’s legacy. What should I do? I’m starting to feel really guilty for hurting him like that. Maybe we could have communicated better about him fucking livestock and this would have gone differently. Also, I want a divorce but everyone is blowing up my phone telling me how wrong that is. As a 48 year old, I know I’ll never be able to date again and I’ll never be fuckable or good enough again so I’m afraid of leaving.
random redditer: wow. That is disgusting behavior. Sorry you’re going through it. He did sorta kinda violate your boundaries. Maybe you can visit a marriage counselor together so you can figure out each other’s needs. For now I’d politely ask everyone to stop harassing you so that both you and your husband can have a needed reprieve from stress.
Wow, you come off a little condescending and prudish. The fact that you reported him to the police is just too much. Judging your husband's sexual preferences like that cannot be good for a healthy, loving marriage. I suggest considering ways of incorporating the cow into you and your husband's sex life.
Why does she keep seeing a dude who keeps crossing boundaries? Where is the feeling of responsibility over your own well being and just walk away? When the word no is not respected then block and delete. Stay away, sex joke? leave, persistence? leave. Pulling your pants down? call the cops. This story sounds like placing your hand on a mouse trap and then place it on the same mouse trap letting it harm you again.
fck redeeming, or second chance. Good men don't need second chances.
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He tried to rape her multiple times. She should press charges, not go to Incel Central to see if they agree.
This is the 2nd post here this week that involves a woman being intoxicated and a man sexually taking advantage of such.
Please start paying attention to how often alcohol is a part of the equation.
I hope this was a wake up call for her, but mistake #1 was going to his house. We don't know if she got drunk at a bar with him then went to his house, or if she drove to his house sober then they drank there. But alcohol and males don't mix. I do not drink with males anymore. I drink alone or with females. I am surprised he didn't just jump on top of her and forced himself inside her. I, too, have put myself in all kinds of dangerous situations being drunk around males. I am so lucky I was never raped. But I didn't know any better. I was still naive and trusting,( like this female is), believing that males can be upstanding moral humans beings that can be trusted. They can't.
I’ve noticed often that when a woman or girl shares a story like this they mention that the male “doesn’t understand no” or “didn’t realize I was uncomfortable”. I honestly wish we could just call it what it is. They understand being told no, you recoiling/pushing them away. They’re just predators and dgaf.
Giving males the benefit of the doubt could be your death sentence.
He is a disgusting person who tried to rape her. However, we need to also hold women accountable. She doesn’t know him, he is a stranger so she decided to go to his house? He could’ve murdered her for god’s sake. There has to be some common sense too. Seriously?? You couldn’t Uber to a friends house or your parents?? Hell, get a motel room somewhere. Being reckless has consequences. This man is a pig but women need to be more careful. Ugh. I feel bad for her. She knew she was drunk, she should’ve went somewhere SAFE. A strangers house is not safe.
Reddit is absolutely wild. A true cesspool. Especially that AITA subreddit. I find myself asking what the fuck did I just read, daily. The formula is some crazy shit like:
I (F48) caught my husband (M61) fucking the neighbor’s cow. I expressed concern over it, and the fact that he frequents strip clubs and hires prostitutes, but now him, our 5 kids and the entire rest of the family won’t speak to me. They said I was wrong for reporting him to the police and that I didn’t have to be so mean and unforgiving about it. My son said I hurt our family’s legacy. What should I do? I’m starting to feel really guilty for hurting him like that. Maybe we could have communicated better about him fucking livestock and this would have gone differently. Also, I want a divorce but everyone is blowing up my phone telling me how wrong that is. As a 48 year old, I know I’ll never be able to date again and I’ll never be fuckable or good enough again so I’m afraid of leaving.
random redditer: wow. That is disgusting behavior. Sorry you’re going through it. He did sorta kinda violate your boundaries. Maybe you can visit a marriage counselor together so you can figure out each other’s needs. For now I’d politely ask everyone to stop harassing you so that both you and your husband can have a needed reprieve from stress.
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Why does she keep seeing a dude who keeps crossing boundaries? Where is the feeling of responsibility over your own well being and just walk away? When the word no is not respected then block and delete. Stay away, sex joke? leave, persistence? leave. Pulling your pants down? call the cops. This story sounds like placing your hand on a mouse trap and then place it on the same mouse trap letting it harm you again.
fck redeeming, or second chance. Good men don't need second chances.
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