The feeling of being played even after leveling up

PS the intention with the last coment was not to shame you, not at all. Just want to be clear about that as I'm really not for that. What I'm wondering and wanting to understand is whethe ryou flagged it at the time, and continued forward, or only afterward you realised? And if you did notice it at the time... why did you not stop? Again not shaming you, just might be helpful to reflect on (kindly) for yourself.

I didn’t realize. He was very committed. I know they can pretend for a long time, but this time I thought he was genuine. I am hurt but I won’t blame myself this time. I did what I could do at the moment, with the knowledge I had. Could’ve been worse. But at least the moment I pointed out weird behavior he took himself out.

I could’ve let pass the strange behaviors after sex and continued with him, but I’m glad I pointed.

Like he said to me “I could’ve pretended and stayed longer with you, just to get sex out of you but I prefer to end things, you are too demanding”

Ohh he is such a nice guy!!!!!

Omg what a nice guy!! 🤮

Imagine having this purpose in life. Playing and pulling women.

Never. Let. Them. Win.

Yeah, he started to get annoyed to having to pay for me all the pay and then started to want to get paid back. He was pretending to be something he wasn’t and he got resentful for that.

He is 31, it’s quite weird that ED especially during kissing he never got hard, only if I put my hands on him or with oral. The moment he put a condom he would get soft. I remember one day, he completely stopped and said “let’s go eat something”, because he just couldn’t get hard. He said he was nervous.

Then after eating he decided to try again.

I haven’t been with many guys in my life, but the few ones I met never had this problem. They would all get hard with kissing and almost never get soft.

His dick wasn’t small.. but I agree with you, sex is a time to vet also!

I immediately thought he was porn sick because this was really weird. Oh he likes anime so probably he is pornsick.

Oh no! Don’t go near men who watch anime. It’s almost always linked to porn watching and/or the fetishisation of young girls. Massive red flag.

Make your post. I want to know your story too.

Yes, of course I am sad but I did the best I can. If I were a pick me it would’ve been worse, but I don’t feel bad for wanting affection, especially after 4 years. It’s hard to live without affection for so long.

I will definitely post about it, just figuring out how to word it cause I dont want to get scolded for what I "should've" done or what red flags there were, cause I know all that and its not helpful after the fact. Sometimes when you're in it they can be so convicing in making you think they care 😭 It's really the fact that I DID think I knew better and thought I was was being wary, and he still got through the walls. But I know I need to vent about it.

That's good to hear you don't feel bad, I know I need the reassurance sometimes.

I found FDS through googling "how to get a guy back" tho 😆

Me neither. I don’t understand why someone wants to pretend 4 months to destroy a woman’s barrier and feel good about it, instead of cherishing love together. It’s something I just can’t understand. How can men live a life like this?

Most men are undiagnosed sadistic narcissists, psychopaths/ sociopaths. They are good at charm and manipulation when it serves them and are socialised to be Machiavellian. They get a kick out of destroying and hurting women. I think you've realized that men know what they are doing and do this on purpose for enjoyment because of FDS lifting the veil. Most women who don't know about FDS project their own goodness and morals onto men so that when they get screwed over like this they gaslight themselves into thinking he didn't know, he was having a hard time, maybe I did something wrong, etc. Men don't view us as fully established thinking, feeling, intelligent human beings. If the did, then they'd have empathy, remorse and guilt for women rather thean get joy out of hurting us for sport.

Absolutely this. Women think men are humans but they don’t think we are. Heterosexuality can’t succeed under these conditions without women being massively duped.

Yes. Never give a lower man a chance, this is real and I’ve learned my lesson. They will hurt you too but it’s even worse because they are ugly.

I am in south Europe and usually normal men don’t have that much of a money to spend. People here make 2k a month maximum, so the 50/50 culture here is very strong. Since there is low income difference among (it’s a social democracy) so usually is harder to find a man that makes money. I know that I have to translate this into European standards, so I expect them to pay and take me to nice places always regarding their condition. In this case I know how much the scrote made, but I don’t know his bank account. I still wanted him to pay for everything and if he can’t afford I find someone else. If they don’t spend with you, they always end up spending with something more important to them, like video games, dinner with other friends etc.

He told me himself exactly this: I could’ve stayed longer with you and even getting married without really liking the way you are. So I prefer to end things now (this is really their thoughts).